I suppose this makes the most sense to me. It seems simple enough. I guess I don't expect to find something interesting about someone if that's what I'm focused on -- finding interests. Does that make sense? I may be looking at this all wrong, perhaps I should just focus on questions that I'm truly curious about? However, if your bored and you want to CREATE interest through means of conversation, I guess asking questions till you discover something interesting will suffice? I suppose it takes a little bit of work on both ends of the conversation and from both people, but do you think creating interest by means of conversation can happen every time? (whew, questions, questions, questions...)You find out what's interesting about them .
Whether it be interests, hobbies, interesting abilities...etc.
Makes sense to me. I wish i could write songs about these things.hmmm to be honest, i wouldn't know. It's like my interests are boring and they wouldn't be interested...hope that makes sense.....
I completely agree with you. How do we get past that? I know I am overly worried about what other people will think of me, which makes me really reserved and boring, and so then they don't like me. It's a vicious cycle. If I wasn't so worried about them not liking me, I would probably be a lot more interesting and then they actually would like me.I think the problem is we are so concerned about how we are being perceived by the other person, it makes us unable to truly engage with interesting people
I wish I felt the same way at 19. I think you have some good points here. I have this thing to where someone can make an impression on me and if it's a bad impression I have a hard time WANTING to connect with them. So sometimes I wonder if curiosity is linked with respect? Perhaps "chemistry" between two people comes from a variety of things. Would anyone like to clarify?I really don't know. I'm just automatically interested in every single person. I like stories. I like when people tell me things, spill their guts. I find humanity in general interesting so I guess it branches from that. Humanity is made up of stories of bravery, of fear, of defeat, of victory, of tragedy, of triumph, of love. And each human being has their own story that intertwines with other stories and leads to some great theme on society.
I guess since I see the world that way, it makes it easy for me to be interested in other people. I might be shy at first but once I get used to a person I really do want to know everything about them even if they're the total opposite of me.