Your write clearly, articulately and it is obvious to anyone who reads your post that you are intelligent, perhaps above average/or a high level. Yet almost nowhere in your post do you speak of these things or mention them.
Its almost all bad with you, isn’t it? Well, that simply is not true. And it never will be true either.
You see, for people affected by SA and other anxieties, they tend to overly emphasise (sometimes strongly) their perceived concerns, troubles, anxieties, viewpoints and especially, how they compare with other people. They also express themselves with absolutes - always & never, when life is not really like that.
But you have no actual knowledge about other people, without spending time with them and seeing for yourself what they are like. Other people’s apparent confidence, focus, energy, etc., is just that - apparent. It is from your viewpoint that you are determining your belief/feelings about them. How other people seem to you is not a fact though and it never will be a fact. It is just a perception and a perception from someone who feels inferior, so your perception is most likely false. But you are not actually inferior and you never will be, for what this word expresses is not a real thing that anyone can see and test. And it never will be.
Not only are you determining untrue things about other people without actually knowing them, you are also doing so with the mindset of believing you are inferior while other people are superior and also, that other people who you assess are like they are all of the time. Do those people get scared? Do they feel anxious sometimes? Do they sometimes feel not confident? Do they get rejected? Do they have doubts? Do they feel lonely? Do they feel inadequate? Do they feel they are inferior and see others as superior? The answer to all of these questions is probably yes, at least sometimes.
You can assume that there are other “brown” men who are bald, but do you think all of those men lack confidence, feel inferior, worry about how they appear to females? Do you think all females would find those men unattractive? Then ask yourself the same questions for skinny ‘brown” men and then skinny bald “brown” men. It is simply not possible that all skinny “brown” men are unappealing to females but also, that you seem to be ignoring the well known aspect that most women do not place nearly as much emphasis on men's appearance as men do on women's appearance - and nowhere near as much. So there will be skinny brown men who are attractive to females, as well as some of those men feeling confident, focused, being calm and enjoying life.
What’s the difference between those skinny “brown” men and you?
Most likely that, at least, they don’t give attention to the thoughts that you have and they do not believe in the thoughts that you do. They choose not to dwell on those things that might not be right for them in life and focus on what they can do and what they like in life. You can be such a person too, if you want that and your world would transform, perhaps quite quickly.
Its almost all bad with you, isn’t it? Well, that simply is not true. And it never will be true either.
You see, for people affected by SA and other anxieties, they tend to overly emphasise (sometimes strongly) their perceived concerns, troubles, anxieties, viewpoints and especially, how they compare with other people. They also express themselves with absolutes - always & never, when life is not really like that.
But you have no actual knowledge about other people, without spending time with them and seeing for yourself what they are like. Other people’s apparent confidence, focus, energy, etc., is just that - apparent. It is from your viewpoint that you are determining your belief/feelings about them. How other people seem to you is not a fact though and it never will be a fact. It is just a perception and a perception from someone who feels inferior, so your perception is most likely false. But you are not actually inferior and you never will be, for what this word expresses is not a real thing that anyone can see and test. And it never will be.
Not only are you determining untrue things about other people without actually knowing them, you are also doing so with the mindset of believing you are inferior while other people are superior and also, that other people who you assess are like they are all of the time. Do those people get scared? Do they feel anxious sometimes? Do they sometimes feel not confident? Do they get rejected? Do they have doubts? Do they feel lonely? Do they feel inadequate? Do they feel they are inferior and see others as superior? The answer to all of these questions is probably yes, at least sometimes.
You can assume that there are other “brown” men who are bald, but do you think all of those men lack confidence, feel inferior, worry about how they appear to females? Do you think all females would find those men unattractive? Then ask yourself the same questions for skinny ‘brown” men and then skinny bald “brown” men. It is simply not possible that all skinny “brown” men are unappealing to females but also, that you seem to be ignoring the well known aspect that most women do not place nearly as much emphasis on men's appearance as men do on women's appearance - and nowhere near as much. So there will be skinny brown men who are attractive to females, as well as some of those men feeling confident, focused, being calm and enjoying life.
What’s the difference between those skinny “brown” men and you?
Most likely that, at least, they don’t give attention to the thoughts that you have and they do not believe in the thoughts that you do. They choose not to dwell on those things that might not be right for them in life and focus on what they can do and what they like in life. You can be such a person too, if you want that and your world would transform, perhaps quite quickly.
