I know what you mean because I'm the same way. I don't have millions of friends, but I have a couple of really good, close friends. I started a new job about two years ago and I've gotten really attached to the people I've met here to the point where I don't just want to be colleagues with them, but I want us to be FRIENDS. I feel like sometimes it's not appropriate because we're in a professional environment, but I tend to turn them into friendships regardless of whether or not the other person feels the same way.
I think it's just a craving for attention/wanting to be loved/wanting to be close to someone. I don't have an answer for you because I am struggling with the same issue. I find myself thinking about these people on the weekends and wanting to hang out with them outside of work. I went so far as to text a coworker about a non-work conversation we were having. I think it's important to keep busy and keep yourself occupied so that you don't get too hung up on these people. It's tough, but it's what i've been doing and it's working somewhat. I'm taking a couple of online courses and joined an extracurricular activity and made plans with some of my (real) friends.
Good luck. Hope this helps
Hi, I felt the need to respond here, I feel the same way!! I have gotten very attached to other women in a few situations. In most of the cases, we wound up not becoming friends in the end. In one case, we did become friends, but a few years later she got married and moved abroad, and we have only been in loose contact since then.Hi all
I feel like I have a problem- I get attached to people I like (platonically, not in terms of wanting to be in a relationship) far too easily. As an example, I started a new job last September and met a nice bunch of people to hang out with. I wouldn't say I'm very good friends with any of them but I enjoy drinks after work occasionally with them.
So on Friday we went out to the pub after work and one of the guys casually mentioned that he was leaving in a few months time. Despite not knowing him for very long or very well I was pretty upset by this. He's a really nice person, I felt we have clicked, share similar interests and had the potential to become quite good friends. But now that he's leaving I feel like it's another potential friendship lost.
I know other people will come along, I know I can keep in touch with him (although there wouldn't really be any reason to as I have only known him very briefly)..but basically my question is, how can I 'care less' about people I barely know? The amount of time I've spent thinking about this loss of a potential friendship this weekend has meant I've not had the energy or inclination to do the pile of chores/work I have to get done...
I agree with this. I also think it's good to realize that people always come and go in your life. It's hard to accept (it is for me anyway), but that's how life tends to flow. Appreciate whatever you have with people, but don't forget that it's never forever.By investing in yourself and encouraging the characteristics you find attracive in others, in yourself. Also, you can't look to others for self esteem. First and foremost, love yourself, value yourself and do not sacrifice your "self" to or for others.
By investing in yourself and encouraging the characteristics you find attracive in others, in yourself. Also, you can't look to others for self esteem. First and foremost, love yourself, value yourself and do not sacrifice your "self" to or for others.
Thank you- this sounds like good advice. I know in my head that people come and go but, for me too, it's hard to accept. Maybe because I've never really had to let go of someone I am fond of (when I left school, I knew I realistically wouldn't keep in touch with anyone. and when I left university I knew I would keep in touch). Also this is the first person in ages I've met who I really feel is on a similar wavelength to me- just my luck that he has to leave so soon..I agree with this. I also think it's good to realize that people always come and go in your life. It's hard to accept (it is for me anyway), but that's how life tends to flow. Appreciate whatever you have with people, but don't forget that it's never forever.