After college graduation I immediately found a cheap apartment/roommate situation in a crappy area, for $235 a month. I was delivering pizza and then got a job at a Starbucks.
I was extremely motivated to find a place of my own and not move home because there was a girl in the area who I wanted to be around and therefore I was very motivated to stay in the area and not move back home.
If you are poor, then you might have to live with roommates and perhaps live in a bad area, but so what? If you live with your parents till you are 39 (like a friend of mine has) you are going to feel even worse about yourself.
I never really 'moved out', I spent most of my teens with an ex (more like a friend) bf who was much older (parents disapproved), I basically lived with him and his family, then when my parents separated/divorced and I went to live with dad who worked shifts alot, was never home, I kinda was left on my own, I met a new bf at 17 who lived on his own, I moved in with him. He devoloped a serious drug habit and I dumped him when I was 19, it was messy, I had no where to go.. my parents arent very accommodating.. So as a last resort, I ended up applying for a job interstate in NT on a resort where accommodation was provided through work. Thats where I met my current partner, who was from another state alltogether, I decided to go with him back to his home in QLD. Rent was so expensive up there and so we moved down to melbourne where my partner started an apprenticeship. We stayed at my mums for a few weeks until eventually we fought and mum kicked us out with nothing, I frantically tried to get us a place to rent as we had better odds down here of getting a rental. We almost went trailer trash.
Lucky my partner had already rented back in QLD and had a good rental record. So we got a tiny 3rd floor unit across from the beach in a crappy suburb. Then we moved to a bigger unit, which is where we are now. Now my dad is building an investment property and wants us to move into it.
It was hell not having a 'home'. Even still, nothing ever feels like home because Ive moved around so much and havnt had a 'family' home since I was 14.
I dont want my unborn child to leave home until they are atleast 21! Freedom from parents feels great when your young, but without parental support and guidance can seriously **** you up.
ive noticed now a new sense of control ove rmy life. before i was just at my parents house, sitting around doing nothing, not caring about anything, powerless.
now I control everything that happens in my home. I decide who stays or leaves. I can do whatever i want, invite who i want, eat in bed, play music loud, dance in underwear, use all the hot water i want in the shower, set up the furiture anyway i choose.
I also have to maintain the food and cleaning myself. I control everything! i think that feeling of control is slowly spilling into my social life where im taking a more active leadership roles, but Im not satisfied with the results yet!
with me, the parents were the cause of the sa, so moving out feels like a breath of a fresh air, like ive broken out of the chains. I think its a good choice, worth all the expenses!
I mean before i was saving money, but throwing away life! id rather save less money to live freely