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Hi everyone. english not being my native language, i'll do my best to write this. I guess i don't need to explain why i'm here. Anyway, i've improved a lot during these years that went by. Sometimes I think to myself " Against what i'm i fighting? Only to finally realise that i'm fighting with a ghost that indeed doesn't exist. Reaction against nothing. But my eyes are opening slowly. I have been in a state of anxiety and fear for so long that i began to think it was normal. That life without it...isn't simply life. but sometimes when I look at the world around me, i think: If there really is an imminent danger awaiting ( at least that's the message my brain is sending me), then why is the "humans" around me living their daily life as usual? Simply... because there is no " real" danger...at least not in this moment. I think we must " relearn" the true meaning of danger. Our ancestors developped the fight or flight response due to true life threatening dangers such as Wild animals. Which is great, because feeling relax and cool when a Tiger is approaching to eat our two balls and company is not what i would call cool. We really need this signal that tells us to get the hell out of here. But let's return to the present. What to do when the signal keeps warning us even if there seems to be nothing? First realizing that your definition of danger is completely wrong...keep convincing yourself, you'll succeed. Second acknowledging that YOU ARE A HUMAN BEING LIVING IN "THE WORLD" not in this world you have created in your mind. A fictious world that sure looks frightening but that exist only in your head. Notice how calm it feels when you look closely at the world surrounding and realize how everything is going on normally. After all "it's just people living their life". And don't worry if you really are in danger, you will know. Because you will immediately see everyone running just like in the movies, when the aliens are bombarding our lovely planet. Another important thing is not to fear the fear itself. Simply say to yourself " IS THERE REALLY A THREAT RIGHT NOW?" After that look around and if noone is running like a mad dog then...everything is alright. Just take a deep breathe... ( I know...hehe, sounds cliché but I know you know breathing calmly is essential for us) ...you are safe among your fellow humans. Some won't like you, so what? IT's clearly not a reason to feel bad or " IN DANGER". People experience this everyday and right now as i'm writing this ;but do they stop living for **** like this, hell NO. So move on.

Another important point is not to take socialising as a big deal. When you don't feel threatened you naturally become more social. It's in us. Engraved in our DNA. realize that even the greatest most sociable mother ****a in the world would lose all his abilities if he felf "threatened" inside. So don't take others for Gods just because they look happier. It's only their definition of danger that differs from yours. Borrow it and make it yours. It works, believe me. I know you will tell me it's too simple but what if it wasn't meant to be complicated. Remember the time when you didn't have " Social Anxiety" ( I don't like this name...but anyway). What was your definition of danger?

Accepting your humanity and realizing that you were not always there and won't be forever will make you feel more similar to the others surrounding you. Just creatures in the world. Creatures that come and leave. It had been so since the beginning of mankind and will be till the end of the world. You are not as unique as you may think ( sorry but that's the truth) so stop thinking that you are the star of the show...or star "victim". Just be part of mankind, relearn to be the human that you are. You don't have to be someone you're not. Simply be the one hiding behind this " false threatening feeling". You'll be alright...it's safe outside.

I'll have to stop here for now. I will be posting soon. I'll also share some practical techniques that worked well for me. So stay tuned, Love you all.

Chris.
 

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A large portion of people with this "disorder" are all natural,healthy,normal people who waste their years because of the opinions of others. It's pretty sad to even think about it, because such a meaningless threat means that person has to be depressed and lonely.

I'm not 50, but I can guess waking up at 50 and finally challenging anxiety is not that much fun.
 
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