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Hi, my name's Paul and I've suffered from this for long time. As far back asI remember I wasn't comfortable doing certain things and just put it down to not being confident.
With a bit of a struggle I managed through life, hiding it all from everyone and in other peoples view "leading a normal life" but inside was different.
By this time I was married, to the wrong person as I wasn't comfortable meeting anyone else and I just stayed with the first one.
After 9 years of marriage, she left, leaving me alone and without that someone who did everything for me (she never realised why she did everything).
Then, sometime about 13 years ago, I realised I had a problem and it would have to come out. The first person I told was my mother, if I could have phoned the doctors myself I would have, but I couldn't, I just don't do phones (I can cope with answering them, just not phoning places a rarely phone).
The doctor got me councilling and after 10 weeks the counciller told me I had problems with anxiety and she would put me on the list for group therapy.
It was a years waiting list and three years later I still hadn't heard anything, by which time i discovered I also had depression and was off work with it.
I managed to presuade my mother to phone the place up where I originally had the councilling and they had no records of me, anyway they got me on the group therapy within a few weeks.
At this time I was really suffering with depression and the women runing the group noticed how bad I was so contacted my doctor (without telling me).
A few weeks later I saw the doctor who put me on AD's for the depression, which didn't work so he sent me to see a shrink, who gave up on me and sent me to another one.
When my "time" was up with this one he discharged me saying I was i lot better. this is after I'd said to him half hour earlier that I was feeling worse than I had ever been.

It as all left me with no trust what so ever in the mental health service in the UK.

On a lighter note, I'm no where near as bad as I was then, but that is only because I have someone who "does stuff for me" when i can't.

Paul
 

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Hello Paul, and welcome. I got two thirds of the way through reading your post and thought, "he's got to be in the UK." And look at that! You are!

Rotten experience, sorry you had to go through it.
 

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hey paul lol im from the uk and know how bad the mental health care is here too. i was waiting, and still am for a group therapy or anything but counciling, sorry to hear about how bad it is for you. I have not spoken on the phone now for about 6 years. glad to hear you have someone special in your life, wish i did. anyway hope all goes well, and welcome :)
 

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Hi Paul :wel

I don't live in the uk but have suffered a long time & definitely relate with
people losing records & the murphy law type stuff. I rarely do phones either.

I'm glad you do currently have someone as previous person said.

Again welcome
 

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Hey Paul, welcome to :sas
 

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Well, I'm sad to see that the skill of the mental health industry is also lacking in the UK as it is most often here in Canada. That was an unacceptable time to wait for a group session, I think. Certainly, something could have been done earlier within that year. I mean, you and your mother were able to find specialised help within weeks. But I guess the best thing to do is to focus on the here and now. I hope you can sort out for yourself what triggers all this depression and anxiety and figure out what small building-block goals you can set and achieve. I do hope you can post more. It was very brave of you to introduce your situation to us. Good luck!!
 

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Welcome, Symon! :)
 
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