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Every day at work is just a new realization that I can't fit in with my coworkers no matter how hard I try, always sitting by myself while all my other coworkers are in their "clique" laughing and enjoying each others company, eating lunch alone, being told I'm "super quiet" all the time, and here I was thinking work would help me become more social, it's sad that I actually enjoy my job, but my coworkers make it miserable for me. Sigh :|

Oh well, here's to all of the other people out there who have a very terrible time at work because they can't fit in.
 

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I started a new job awhile ago. Thought maybe I could fit in but nope and then people started laughing at me sooooo. Next job I get will not include people.
 

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I just spend all day at my desk trying to avoid any kind of contact, listening to music in an attempt to drown out the inane chatter around me about weekends, what everyone is having for lunch etc. Lunchtimes are a welcome reprieve because the office empties out as co-workers go off joined at the hip in their little cliques to wherever the hell they go to eat and gossip.

Yesterday afternoon I went to our supposedly compulsory weekly meeting for the first time in a while and was reminded why I stopped bothering going. It never starts on time because everyone is more interested in drinking and socialising with each other while I stand awkwardly on the outer edges pretending to notice something interesting on the wall. Sure enough, five minutes into the start time of the meeting yesterday and everyone was still laughing and joking away while I just stood there by myself, so I walked out and went back to my desk, vowing never to attend another meeting again since they're clearly much more interested in discussing their weekend plans than actual work.

It's not so much the fact that I don't relate to these people that bothers me; it's having to spend my entire day with these people in a place I just don't belong that does my head in :no
 

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I will never fit in at work. Everyone there is there to make friends and I'm actually there to just do my job.

I personally don't care to make friends with them either. It makes my day much more enjoyable.
 

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I know them feels!

Then I occasionally get some sort of pity question because I've been sat in silence for 6hrs..and I **** it up/mumble/don't have a good answer (especially if they ask what I've got planned for the weekend - apparently "**** all" isnt a good answer)
 

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Yeah I try to join in but I'll always be the outcast
 

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Another social outcast here. But I don't like my job. So, for me, going to work feel basically as going to hell.

I just sit all day long in front of my computer avoiding contact and pretending I'm actually working. I lunch by myself almost everyday, just in special occasions I go lunch with my co-workers. This special occasions are terrible. Everybody chatting, laughing and having a good time while I stay quiet, looking something in my mobile.
 

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The thing is the harder I try to fit in, the more of an outcast I become. It's like your drowning in quicksand and your flailing away, and you just sink faster. I've just given up and accepted that I will never be accepted by my peers.
 

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We all want to just close ourselves in our little space and pretend that we have a lot of important things to do. But I think if we want to advance in life (career/relationships) we have to make small efforts every day. It's ****ing hard, and it's embarrassing and you come out as awkward but with every experience you get better and better. Besides, you can still be independent but in the same time friendly and open to people.
 

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I find I feel the opposite. I wish I could be the quiet person at work!

I crack jokes- probably stupid and inappropriate ones. I sass a bit, and cuss - WHO am I??? I hate myself when I get home; I obsess over every word I said that day and hate myself. Why can't I just Shut The **** Up?
 

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I can relate. It seems like everyone at my work is friends with each other and they're always talking in the break room or when it's not busy and I'm just there by myself. I might add one or two little comments if they're talking about something I know something about or agree with but I can't make friends or hold a conversation so I just stick to myself and it makes me feel really lonely. Plus I worry about what people think of me so hold back even when I wish I could just jump in there and talk to someone.
 

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It hits hard at work when being social would actually make your job much Easier, but you just dont know how to fit in. I played the newbie card way longer than I probably should've and it just made me seem clueless...
 

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It's funny at my new job. My co-workers from my training class all talk to me and we all sit together at lunch, but none of them ever ask me for my phone number or if I had a Facebook account. Yet, they all have exchanged their numbers with each other and post on each other's Facebook pages daily. They discuss it when I'm sitting right there with them.


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I don't know why people are such *******s! I mean, why the hell do they complain to someone that they are "too quiet" yet, they don't make an effort to start a damn conversation with them??? No one is ever too quiet.
 

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Started a new job about 2 months ago, thought id be more social but not really. I still eat alone and try to go to lunch early to avoid meeting everyone there.
 

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Tell me about it. Granted, some days are better than others and I can actually talk to some of them. But often, I'm blatantly left out of conversations.
 

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Sounds like my realization every day when I'm at work... Some differences though.. I dont really like my job 100%, I don't hate it either, but well it's somewhere half way..
As for the colleagues there.. Well there is a group, always going for coffee together.. I'm never asked along..They do ask me for lunch, and since I don't like lunching alone, I go along, but end up being the silent one at the table.. From time to time I try to add something to the ongoing conversation, but either the conversation ends up being dead after that, or they act like they didn't hear anything.. So there is me.. Sitting at a table of 9 people chatting and laughing and I'm the one being silent... :(
 
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