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Hi I'm here cos I don't know where else to be. I'm not sure what is wrong with me really but maybe some one can help. I've always been shy and bad with socialising . I didn't mind so much before I was happy just being lonely , then i met a really bad girl who messed up my life and I left her and decided to go to college. That was supposed to be a positive step . I met good people including a really nice girl who became a good friend. I think I fell in love , I told her and she seemed to like this . But for some reason nothing happened. Maybe the age difference cos she is 10 years younger , maybe she is embarrassed to like me cos she is a beautiful outgoing intelligent girl who every guy likes - I'm a shy man with few friends and not social. I don't know why we got on so good , were opposites of the social world. Anyway all the time we spent made me love her more then she left .
We stay friends , I wanted to leave too I think she wanted me to. But I went back to study and now I'm feelng depressed because I really loved being around her she made me smile and gave me energy . But she's gone and I'm trying to get happy again and forget her. She wasn't my girlfriend so why do I feel more hurt than when I split with real girlfriends who I was intimate with?
It depresses me to see her FB updates, I feel like I need to find a girlfriend but I can't do it because they don't understand me . I am risk taking to get endorphins because without them I would get depressed. (After the really bad relationship I got antidepressants to help me sleep but only took them a few times , didn't like them )
it makes me embarrassed thinking about how I have good people around me who care and would do anything for me, yet I am unhappy . I feel selfish .
 

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Aw, man *hug* don't worry. You're not selfish, don't say that. I think what you've been doing is perfectly human. You've found someone you are really comfortable with and to see her facebook updates are just a reminder of something you care for and are currently missing, yes? Hang in there. My advice in the relationship would be to pursue her in a friendship and I think that would be a great step, you said you really like her and you like being around her. So just having her in your life I'm sure will give you great support, girlfriend or not, she'll still be there for you :)

Welcome to SAS! if you need to talk about anything, I'm all ears (eyes?), send me a message if you want. Hope you enjoy your stay here. :squeeze
 

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Hi Endorphinbuzz. Welcome to SAS!

 

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Hey Endorphin buzz welcome. :hyper
 

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Welcome to S.A.S i hope you enjoy your time on here and make plenty of friends, look forward to reading your future post. I don't think your selfish for being unhappy with the way things are going in life. The people who love and care for you cant really understand where your at in your life right now but still love you unconditionally and i trust you love them unconditionally as well. as far as that girl goes i think its better to have her as a friend then not have her around at all, but you'd have to ask yourself is having her around and seeing her F.B statuses hurting you more then it would to just have her out of your life completely?
 

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Welcome to S.A.S i hope you enjoy your time on here and make plenty of friends, look forward to reading your future post. I don't think your selfish for being unhappy with the way things are going in life. The people who love and care for you cant really understand where your at in your life right now but still love you unconditionally and i trust you love them unconditionally as well. as far as that girl goes i think its better to have her as a friend then not have her around at all, but you'd have to ask yourself is having her around and seeing her F.B statuses hurting you more then it would to just have her out of your life completely?
Hey you are right , it is better to have her friendship than not . I managed to unsubscribe from her status so dont have to read them now :D

ANYWAY ,Thanks everyone for the welcome and nice words.

Nice people here ;)
 

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Hi I'm here cos I don't know where else to be. I'm not sure what is wrong with me really but maybe some one can help. I've always been shy and bad with socialising . I didn't mind so much before I was happy just being lonely , then i met a really bad girl who messed up my life and I left her and decided to go to college. That was supposed to be a positive step . I met good people including a really nice girl who became a good friend. I think I fell in love , I told her and she seemed to like this . But for some reason nothing happened. Maybe the age difference cos she is 10 years younger , maybe she is embarrassed to like me cos she is a beautiful outgoing intelligent girl who every guy likes - I'm a shy man with few friends and not social. I don't know why we got on so good , were opposites of the social world. Anyway all the time we spent made me love her more then she left .
We stay friends , I wanted to leave too I think she wanted me to. But I went back to study and now I'm feelng depressed because I really loved being around her she made me smile and gave me energy . But she's gone and I'm trying to get happy again and forget her. She wasn't my girlfriend so why do I feel more hurt than when I split with real girlfriends who I was intimate with?
It depresses me to see her FB updates, I feel like I need to find a girlfriend but I can't do it because they don't understand me . I am risk taking to get endorphins because without them I would get depressed. (After the really bad relationship I got antidepressants to help me sleep but only took them a few times , didn't like them )
it makes me embarrassed thinking about how I have good people around me who care and would do anything for me, yet I am unhappy . I feel selfish .
If you have a romantic interest in her and she only sees you as a friend, then every time you see her with someone else it'll break your heart. You're better off breaking all ties with her and finding someone else.
 

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If you have a romantic interest in her and she only sees you as a friend, then every time you see her with someone else it'll break your heart. You're better off breaking all ties with her and finding someone else.
Shes miles away now , but yea it broke my heart to read her status updates now shes away. The problem with her is she is stunningly beautiful which means she has new men notice her every day . It could of been different though, she tried to kiss me once but i pulled away cos that morning i had not brushed my teeth. I keep thinking back to that hug, and her lips and eyes . Im still glad I didnt kiss her cos if i did all she would remember of it was smelly breath. If it had been 10 mins later she would of got the most passionate kiss of her life ;)
 

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Welcome, EndorphinBuzz! :)
 
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