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Hi Everyone, I'm new to this site & am on Bambi legs so to speak 馃槉 I don't have a diagnosis of social anxiety but I live with all the symptoms, so no difference really. I recently went to see a therapist to discuss my anxiety & tbh, I think I feel more of a sad case since my therapy than before. Or maybe I was expecting too much from my therapist. My story in one sentence... I am an educated, health care professional, young mum & loving/loved wife, who thanks to a ridiculously emotionally abusive childhood, has no sense of self worth, no self confidence & no friends... Hope this is ok to write on here... I'm hoping I can at least practice 'chatting' with others online here as I seem to crash & burn so badly in real life when it comes to socialising ... All thanks to my anxiety & rubbish social skills 馃様

Hope I haven't put you all off chatting to me! I often wonder would old'friends', work colleagues or family be shocked to see the truly desolate & lonely soul behind my daily mask ...even my intro on here is negative & off putting argh!! But I'll post this as it's the truth. I'm lonely & it sucks. I'm an extrovert crippled & gagged by my own insecurities!

Would love to chat if anyone still reading X
 

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Hello there!

It sounds like you have a lot going for you. Why do you say that you crash and burn socially?
 

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Hello there!

It sounds like you have a lot going for you. Why do you say that you crash and burn socially?
I just don't fit into groups... Initially people meet me, seem to like me, invite me to do a few things then inevitably I end up that girl that the group doesn't invite to things etc. I'm guessing that a self esteem that's in my boots, combined with a lifetime of keeping people at arms length has perhaps led me to coming across either too cold or over eager... That's kind of in short how I crash & burn... 😊
 

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I came across a website today free self confidence training uk...it's been a very interesting read & I'm beginning to feel hopeful that my issues might begin & end with low self esteem!! Anyone feel similar?! X
 

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You seem like an intelligent and mature woman that's very aware of her issues and is trying to address them. You have at the very least a family to find support on.

One thing you have to keep in mind is that issues that have been brewing for many years cannot be solved in weeks or months, you essentially need to reprogram your own mind and that can take a lot of time and effort. But it's certainly not impossible, you just need to find a good therapist, make a huge and constant effort and in the long run you should be able to at least get closer to solving those issues.

PD: I'm not sure a webpage like this one is the best for someone like you. For better or for worse it's filled with a lot of negativity and youthful angst, which may not be the right environment for someone in your particular situation.
 

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Hi again, thanks for all the posts ... I see what each if you mean & while this site is really good for opening up in confidence I also know my individual situation can't be fixed online. However, I just wanted to let you all know a little positive news... After having a look around this site I decided to put done self esteem& self assertiveness tips into action with a difficult situation that arose with done of my birth family members this week... The result was an eye opener to say the least.... Again on short ( & skipping all detail ��) I asserted my needs & although it ruffled feathers , I felt & still feel FANTASTIC! I can see my problems lye in my birth family history & I'm going to keep focused on that.... I do remember my therapist said to me at my last session that this would be a slow process... I think I needed a victory for myself as I was really starting to feel so deflated & frustrated! Anyways, I'll stop my rambling & sign off by saying thank you for listening ... It helped to find a group of people who I didn't have to put my mask on for 鈽 wishing you all the best & wish you all peace of mind & heart X
 

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Welcome. You are certainly not alone.
 

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Welcome, YikesGirl! :)
 
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