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I met this guy online months ago, we met for our first date at a movie theatre and the first thing I blurted out to him was "I dont think Im your type" and we hit it off because he thought it was so cute. I was the shy, socially retarded, introverted, frumpily dressed guy and he was the handsome, outgoing, club multiple times weekly, with a ga-chillion friends type of guy. We had our differences, as well as our similarities as well. Dating him really brought out confidence in myself and helped my SA.
He was my first real boyfriend. I loved him so much. We did lots of things together and the relationship went well until I introduced my "friend" to him and then they started talking to eachother more than we did. When my "friend" mentioned that he liked someone who was dating a good "friend" and whether he should make a move or not, I forbidded my boyfriend from talking to this guy. I also cut my friendship with that guy. My bf maintained that they were nothing more than friends and the "friend" told me we were a good couple and he wasn't coming between us, but my hunch was telling me this guy was macking on my boyfriend. My bf agreed not to talk to him, but he went behind my back and went drinking with this guy and texting him behind my back secretively. He did it, forgave him, said it wouldn't happen again. It did happen again. I broke up with him.
A week later, they're "in a relationship".
**Should I have even dumped him in the first place?
**How can you just forget someone you dated for almost a year in a matter of less than a week and move on with another person?
**Was I the bad guy in forbidding him from talking to the "friend"? I can't help but blame myself for this relationship going the way it did. In the end, my suspicions were right though, there was something going on.
**I can't help lusting and wanting to be with him, should I just move on or continue to obsess over us? I can't help but think about the good times we had. It's this feeling that I'll never meet anyone as unique as him ever again. I've met a lot of gay guys online and there's this awkward egocentricness I sense from almost all of them except him.
**How do you move on from a break up? I've never had a relationship before. When we broke up, all these raw emotions just hit me and I never expected it.
I feel like a desperate teenager. Well I sorta am (19 and its my first relationship)
He was my first real boyfriend. I loved him so much. We did lots of things together and the relationship went well until I introduced my "friend" to him and then they started talking to eachother more than we did. When my "friend" mentioned that he liked someone who was dating a good "friend" and whether he should make a move or not, I forbidded my boyfriend from talking to this guy. I also cut my friendship with that guy. My bf maintained that they were nothing more than friends and the "friend" told me we were a good couple and he wasn't coming between us, but my hunch was telling me this guy was macking on my boyfriend. My bf agreed not to talk to him, but he went behind my back and went drinking with this guy and texting him behind my back secretively. He did it, forgave him, said it wouldn't happen again. It did happen again. I broke up with him.
A week later, they're "in a relationship".
**Should I have even dumped him in the first place?
**How can you just forget someone you dated for almost a year in a matter of less than a week and move on with another person?
**Was I the bad guy in forbidding him from talking to the "friend"? I can't help but blame myself for this relationship going the way it did. In the end, my suspicions were right though, there was something going on.
**I can't help lusting and wanting to be with him, should I just move on or continue to obsess over us? I can't help but think about the good times we had. It's this feeling that I'll never meet anyone as unique as him ever again. I've met a lot of gay guys online and there's this awkward egocentricness I sense from almost all of them except him.
**How do you move on from a break up? I've never had a relationship before. When we broke up, all these raw emotions just hit me and I never expected it.
I feel like a desperate teenager. Well I sorta am
(19 and its my first relationship)
