It just takes time, I think, but if your self-confidence is hurt pretty bad, flirting with other people seems like a good way to boost it again. Also, anything that helps depression is probably also going to be helpful for getting over a breakup.
omg my boyfriend broke up with me two months ago after 10 months - -we were so in love and inseparable.... so you can imagine how devastating it was when we broke up. . i was losing my mind . .i still love him very strongly and he wants to be friends but i prefer not to have anything to do with him at all.. you absolutely cannot be friends with someone you are in love with no matter how you put it. you will end up hurting yourself even more...i didn't see it coming either - -i felt he was my other half and i would spend the rest of my life with him ...unfortunately he couldn't take the fights ;/ but its really hard to break up especially when you have SA because you dont really have anything or anyone to keep ur mind occupied and not much ppl to tlak to - - i just work out a lotttt!!! run on my treadmill like crazy - - it helps to take the stress away - -im managing to continue with my life, i don't know how im doing it but I am . .. my advice to you is keep in mind that everything happens for a reason - -always remember that . . .focus on your SA and try to make small improvements . .it will make you happy and realize how strong you really are ....good luck ;]My boyfriend of about 9 months broke up with me yesterday.
I know, it's only 9 months, and it doesn't seem logical that i'd get too attached, but I still have really strong feelings for him.
He said that he felt the relationship was stagnant, and wasn't going anywhere. I told him earlier in the relationship that I thought I loved him, and he admitted that he didn't feel the same way. So i respected that, and pretty much remained in the relationship hoping that his feelings would eventually change. He told me yesterday and that not only did he not feel as strongly about him as he did about me, but he felt like his feelings for me weren't growing...they weren't going anywhere. So that was it.
What can i say? I'm still kind of shocked and hurt, because I didn't see it coming AT ALL.
I'm trying to keep my mind occupied, because every time i think about him i tear up.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? What did you do after someone broke your heart? What's a good way to move on?
:yes I know the feeling lol. I don't really feel bad about it though because I tried my hardest to become a better person and make her proud to have me again, but that's when I realized that I wasn't the only one who screwed up, but I was the only one who admitted it and tried to fix it instead of giving up so easily. I think that's all it is when somebody breaks up with you after a serious relationship - they just gave up because they couldn't handle the stress. They'll come up with all sorts of excuses to why they are doing it, but the fact remains that those things never used to bother them that much until they gave up on the relationship.and not to sound sadistic, but i sincerely know for a fact that someday, after shes done with all the partying, shes at the very least going to get a case of the "what ifs" and "did i make a mistake." and even as immature as that may sound, lol, it kinda makes me feel better.