Have you really thought about your Wedding/Reception ceremonies? What about the SA?
I was curious to know if anyone else here, who plans of getting married one day, dreads their actual wedding/reception because of their SA?
I currently don't have a girlfriend. Yet I did have a fairly successful relationship a few years ago, and I have a very strong desire and drive to find my soul mate and get married one day. It's something I want very much in my life.
As petty as it sounds in the grand scheme of things, I actually worry quite a bit about the actual ceremony and reception. The idea of being the center of attention for a long period of time, and then having to go to a reception, be the center of attention again, be expected to dance, to kiss my wife in front of tons of people while they ping their glasses every freakin time we do so, to do all those social wedding traditions and such....................is..well, an SAr's worst nightmare.
I know not everyone has a big wedding, some end up keeping it simple, some just go down to the courthouse and sign a document. But I've been around enough women to know that weddings are a special moment in a woman's life. Most women seem to dream of and want a good sized wedding. I would say they are more important to the woman than the man. So, it's certainly not something I would want to deny my future bride to be.
And it's not just the SA I will experience in the moment that bothers me. Because of a lifelong battle with SA, I'm really not even close to the family members one would typically invite to a wedding (such as Aunts, Uncles, Cousins). I'm aprehensive about having them there, when I feel I hardly know them. Or not having very many even show up.
And then of course there's the Best Man situation. Umm, I don't have any friends. I have a few coleague type friends, but no one close. This gives me HUGE concerns, how do I not have a Best man at a wedding? I just hope I can make some friends before then.
Anyhow, I'm sure some of my fellow SAr's out there have thought about this too, and I'm curious to know if anyone has thought of anyways of dealing with this? What do you tell yourself? Are there ways around the traditions and things that concern us? Are there things you have learned to tell yourself that make it easier to cope with the whole concept of this event?
Please don't respond just to say you don't plan on getting married. I'm looking for positive constructive comments. Thanks.
I was curious to know if anyone else here, who plans of getting married one day, dreads their actual wedding/reception because of their SA?
I currently don't have a girlfriend. Yet I did have a fairly successful relationship a few years ago, and I have a very strong desire and drive to find my soul mate and get married one day. It's something I want very much in my life.
As petty as it sounds in the grand scheme of things, I actually worry quite a bit about the actual ceremony and reception. The idea of being the center of attention for a long period of time, and then having to go to a reception, be the center of attention again, be expected to dance, to kiss my wife in front of tons of people while they ping their glasses every freakin time we do so, to do all those social wedding traditions and such....................is..well, an SAr's worst nightmare.
I know not everyone has a big wedding, some end up keeping it simple, some just go down to the courthouse and sign a document. But I've been around enough women to know that weddings are a special moment in a woman's life. Most women seem to dream of and want a good sized wedding. I would say they are more important to the woman than the man. So, it's certainly not something I would want to deny my future bride to be.
And it's not just the SA I will experience in the moment that bothers me. Because of a lifelong battle with SA, I'm really not even close to the family members one would typically invite to a wedding (such as Aunts, Uncles, Cousins). I'm aprehensive about having them there, when I feel I hardly know them. Or not having very many even show up.
And then of course there's the Best Man situation. Umm, I don't have any friends. I have a few coleague type friends, but no one close. This gives me HUGE concerns, how do I not have a Best man at a wedding? I just hope I can make some friends before then.
Anyhow, I'm sure some of my fellow SAr's out there have thought about this too, and I'm curious to know if anyone has thought of anyways of dealing with this? What do you tell yourself? Are there ways around the traditions and things that concern us? Are there things you have learned to tell yourself that make it easier to cope with the whole concept of this event?
Please don't respond just to say you don't plan on getting married. I'm looking for positive constructive comments. Thanks.