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I used to think I was the hugest weirdo for being scared to work/get a job. I also only thought I had depression until I found about about SA and found out I wasn't the ONLY person in the world to have it after so long feeling like I was just stupid and weird. I've found that now that I know about it, I feel more normal, as much as I can with SA and not so alone. Also, I noticed that sometimes my mind tries to use it as an excuse to stay socially anxious. Like it's ok cus it's a real issue many face...I still fight it and it seems like that's gotten easier since giving it a name, but I'm also more aware of my anxiety than I used to be. So it's been mostly good for me, but did have its draw backs :/
 

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I'm not really sure. I almost felt a little worse to find that I have severe anxiety and I'm not just shy; I just never really thought about it. It is really nice to vent about social anxiety issues on the forum though, and I've found some useful information to help slowly overcome social anxiety. I guess since I've joined the forums I've starting actually noticing this as a problem and have been trying a bit harder to fix it.
 

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i think i liked it better before i knew about it. when i thought i was just shy i would try and do things. now that i know i have it, i use it as an excuse to stay in and not try anything. i used to leave the house a lot more before i found out i had it.
 

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I always knew that there was something wrong with me or I was different. I was mis-diagnosed in high school with depression and it wasnt until I ended up picking up a book at the library 1 day that I realized there was a name for what was wrong with me! It has changed my way of thinking from this is who I am to this isnt who I have to be. I know that my anxiety is only the effect of inner wounds and its just a matter of healing those wounds. Putting a label on myself has only given me hope and as I work through my issues hope is what keeps me going everyday.
 

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i think im always going to be shy but its good to know that this level of anxiety is not normal and can be fixed to the point where i wont be afraid to make a phone call or something equally trivial.
 

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Yes, most definitely it has helped. It helps explains things and it helps push me to not do things the way I've always done them. Finding this board and seeing others out there with similiar issues also helps greatly.

My husband has ADD and be it valid or not, he uses it as an excuse A LOT. I'm very much aware of that and have vowed to not use my disorder as an excuse.
 

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Being told I had Social Anxiety Disorder was a massive revelation to me. I all kinds of freaky problems and I never knew why. Im a way I was relieved to know what my problem is, and that it's a recognised thing with recognised treatments.. However at the same time, it was heart breaking news for me to learn that I have a serious illness and it's one with such an embarassing name... We all want to think of ourselves as popular, sociable people, but if I am to tell friends and family the truth about my behaviour... I have to tell them that I have a social problem. To me it's akin to telling them, "Yeah Brad Pitt, Beyonce, and all the cool kids of the world, they are super social centers of attention. Me though, I am incapable of even talking to people". It's an illness... but I'm sure people would judge me at being a loser for not learning to work in social situations like all the other normal people in the world. But maybe that's just my negative view of it. Some people at least, would appreciate it's an illness I'm sure.

Attracting attention to me having a problem also made me feel worse. I have been quite unwell with this thing for the last year since I was diagnosed. I now get panic attacks and stuff, because although I'm better off for knowing.. I now am more nervous about social situations because I know I have a specific problem affecting me in them.. :(

The positive of all this though, is that I know what I have, and I am motivated to beat the damn thing. It is screwing my life up and as someone else described in another thread here, playing the waiting game, waiting for the moment when you are going to be strong enough to beat it... it's a waste of time. It will never come. You have to throw caution to the wind and go out and do stuff. Meet people even if it's going somewhere on the bus for a change and asking someone the time. That post really pushed me. I've since told my friend I will go to the gym with him twice every week, and on another one or two nights I'm going to sign up to a night class in cooking or something. I know my enemy, I'm going to fight it now, and I'm not going to keep waiting to be in the right mood to fight it.
 

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I knew I was "shy", but I didn"t see shyness as a way of thinking. For some reason I didn"t consider that other people may think the same way I do in these situation.

It was only after looking up "shyness" in wikipedia that I saw that it was a condition, a relatable phobia. After that I realised that my shyness counquered most of my life. A lot of things I can"t do or don"t do wasn"t just because of my personality, it was because my "shyness" was preventing any growth there. I became very depressed for a few weeks after I grew more and more aware of how much it affected me.
Now I"m at the stage where I"m finally taking steps to help it, which wouldn"t have happened with out finding out about SAD.

[edit] I just realised I wrote exactly what Pixies did. Damn.
 

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I don't think knowing really helps a lot except maybe for understanding somewhat what you are going through, though any help is good so...
 

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I'd like to do more things, but I have tons of issues besides SA to work with/through...I have faced it when I got the chance though and honestly, it's not so bad. I was TERRIFIED to work on a cash register about a month ago and I did it at my mom's job when they needed help one night. I felt AWESOME after doing it :D I also waited tables and answered the phone and was pretty comfy with it after an hour or so....the problem is finding a job in this economy and my family is not the best...I've written a little about them in my blogs. They hold me back a lot :(
 

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All I know is it's so nice not to be alone in this =]
 

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I used to think I was just a freak of nature and that every other human being in the world found socialising easy and had friends. While other mental conditions are all over the media, I never saw anything that seemed like what I had. It was strange when I found out it is so common. Why isn't it more publicised? If it were more widely known I wouldn't have had to wait all those years to figure out what the hell was wrong with me.
 

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I think it has definitely helped me more than anything to know that there is a name for this problem and that there are other people out there that suffer from it too. All through school I was always the shyest, quietest person and I never understood why everything was so easy for everyone else and I just could not bring myself to talk. It wasn't until I ended up dropping out of college due to conditions I believe to be related to social anxiety that I finally did some research online and found out about this. Although I am still really shy, I have been taking steps to work on things and I now believe that there is actually hope that I can improve things.
 
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