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I am pretty confused and frustrated with my life, but the one thing I've figured out is that I'm pretty happy when I'm in a romantic relationship, and pretty unhappy when I'm not. Although day-to-day events may make me happier or sadder briefly, this is the general rule. Is anyone else like this?

When I'm single, I feel utterly alone in the world, and have no motivation to do anything. I don't really have any friends. I spend all my time trying to distract myself from my mood (wasting it), and trying to get into a relationship.

When I'm in a relationship with someone I trust, I am generally happy and productive and confident. It's really great. On the other hand, I don't really have any social life other than dating, so I do nothing social at all when I'm in a relationship.

...which causes the girl to feel smothered because she is my entire social life, which causes me to become single again. Rinse and repeat.

I think my relationships would probably be a lot healthier if I had other platonic friends.
 

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If this is the case then go out and make friends, you seem to have all the answers in the post above. Just go out and do it :)
 

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I'm pretty much the same at this point in my life. I usually don't smother the girl though. When in a relationship I still have days where I just waste time away and do my loner hobbies but I am usually content in them. When I am not in a relationship I usually feel I am wasting my life away and lonely and pathetic. No platonic friends either way. Whether I am in a relationship or single for some reason I don't have the motivation to develop a friendship with people usually. I might go out with someone once for a challenge and to help me progress a little but usually is more of a task and I don't enjoy it or do it often.
 
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