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Have any of you ever been in a position where you felt like you had to lie to avoid an uncomfortable situation, even though you generally feel horrible for telling a lie of any kind? In other words, either way you lose.
I recently got invited to an event I do not want to attend. That by itself isn't a huge deal for me, however a friend of mine was also invited and the only way he can go is if I drive him. So now I'm feeling exceptionally guilty because by not going, I'm forcing him to stay home that night.
Initially, I was also feeling awful because I had no real alternate plans that night and would have had to make up a phony reason why I couldn't go (I hate that). However, now something else has come up that I can do instead on the same night. So I can now truthfully say, sorry I have other plans. Problem solved, right?
Of course not. I'm still feeling guilty because my friend won't be able to go to this event, and because I could have very easily rescheduled the second activity if I'd really wanted to. I'm also trying to figure out what I'll tell them if they ask what my other plans are (for long, complicated reasons, I can't tell them the truth on that either.)
How DO other people deal with life so easily?
I recently got invited to an event I do not want to attend. That by itself isn't a huge deal for me, however a friend of mine was also invited and the only way he can go is if I drive him. So now I'm feeling exceptionally guilty because by not going, I'm forcing him to stay home that night.
Initially, I was also feeling awful because I had no real alternate plans that night and would have had to make up a phony reason why I couldn't go (I hate that). However, now something else has come up that I can do instead on the same night. So I can now truthfully say, sorry I have other plans. Problem solved, right?
Of course not. I'm still feeling guilty because my friend won't be able to go to this event, and because I could have very easily rescheduled the second activity if I'd really wanted to. I'm also trying to figure out what I'll tell them if they ask what my other plans are (for long, complicated reasons, I can't tell them the truth on that either.)
How DO other people deal with life so easily?