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Hello everyone,

I went to a doctor once about a year ago and I was really nervous and my mom pretty much had to force me to go. I saw him once and he gave me some celexa. He told me the symptoms that I had described is social phobia.

I need to go back and see him because I have tried the self help books route and natural remedies, nothing has helped. I just find it very hard to get up the courage to see him again. Plus I would need to have to ask him to fill something out for me to get on temporary disability in BC, canada where I live, since I can not work and have never worked in a normal job in my life. I need to work on my anxiety before I can think about getting a job, but I have been living off my family for too long now, I will be turning 21 june 7th. I won't be able to live here much longer if I can't bring in some money for rent somehow.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Hi, I don't have the perfect answer/advice.. but I just wanted to say a couple things.

I was in the same boat as you when I was about your age. I have what my therapist calls an avoidant personality. I basically avoided anyone who was trying to help me. I spent my early 20's in my parent's basement playing Quake and Warcraft. It's a long story but I wound up in the psych ward when I was 26 and finally put on medication and have been seeing a therapist and psychiatrist regularly for the last 3 years. I now have a good job and just finished my BS at 29. I'm pursuing my Masters now.

I don't really know what to tell you, just please please PLEASE don't do nothing at all. I don't know how you can get up the nerve to talk to a doctor, but you have to do it some way or the other.

Also, I've read a couple of those self help books, all they did is make me over-analyze myself and make me more anxious. A lot of the stuff in them didn't even apply to me. If you see a therapist regularly and they get to know you, they can tell you what specifically applies to you so you can focus on that.
 

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Going home for a bit while you work at getting back on your feet might be a good idea, provided your home is a place that will help you recover from your anxiety. It would be better to do this now rather than wait for ten years when life is more complicated.

Progress is hard to make, especially if you don't know what to do or where to go. Self-help books aren't necessarily a perfect solution either, although they can be helpful. Doctors and medication are only a piece of the pie.

For me, regular exercise, talking to a counselor (VERY HELPFUL), eating an anxiety-reducing diet, taking risks to break out of my anxiety, and talking to friends or my counselor when I was down was a successful formula. Basically, you have to challenge yourself to live a new way of life. Out of the previous methods mentioned, if I had to pick one I would pick out counseling because a counselor can help you understand what you need to do in order to reduce your anxiety.

There is relief; it is hard to find, but there is relief. Good luck and be sure to ask questions if you have some.
 
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