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Okay, so a coworker invited me to her high school senior prom as friends. I am in my first year of college so there isn't much of an age difference. I said yes, because I figured, she just really wanted someone to go with her and Prom only happens once, blah blah blah. Anyways, we are pretty good friends at work, but I'm worried that I won't really fit in because I am really shy around people I don't know ( I don't know anyone in the group but her) Also, I've never really hung out with girls outside of work.. I didn't go to my prom/wasn't much of the partier back in high school either. The last dance I went to was in seventh grade, and surprise surprise, I didn't dance:um... how can I make the night fun for her without it being awkward on her, the group, and me? Any tips/advice?

Also, I kind of like her, but I know she just wants to go as friends, so I'm constantly reminding myself that we are going just as friends. Like I said, I've never hung out with girls outside of work, never had a gf, etc... any advice on this issue? Honestly, I was kind of surprised that she asked me...

Finally, when we did hang out once after work recently, it was really weird, like the conversations wouldn't flow the same way they would at work... what can I do to try and fix this? Also, I don't know how to dance...:eek:

Thanks for the advice,

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learn to dance!! dancing is so much fun!! not just for the prom, but start dancing and you might fall in love with it and go dancing every night like me lol ;)

are you sure she doesn't like you? did she say, "we're just friends." if not, maybe she likes you..if she did say that, then yes, keep repeating to yourself over and over again that your just friends, and know there are other girls out there..
 

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well, she asked me a few days ago, and the dance is in less than 2 weeks... I'm not worried about slow dancing, its the fast dancing that gets me...any tips?
 

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Ahh, senior prom. So many good memories. I remember at my senior prom, I once... oh, wait a second. I didn't go to my senior prom, because my date got rid of me one week earlier because she fell in love with some guy named Julio, who she met, down by the schoolyard. So nevermind....
 

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Conversation? I'm not great at it, but here's what helps me: plan things to talk about in advance. What interests you? For me, it's current events, so I read a quality newspaper for in-depth analysis of current news stories, then talk about them. Scientific American is really good for interesting things to talk about too. What do you know about her, her interests? Ask her about herself and pay attention to the answers :)

And if she specifically said "as friends" then you should assume she doesn't have any romantic feelings towards you, sorry. But you'll get to meet some of her friends - maybe one (or more) of them will fancy you :)
 

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Just remind yourself she's like any other friend, and treat her like this. I think this important in any situation. She could possibly like you and didn't have the nerve to ask you before. "Going as friends" could mean anything idk.

For dancing, move to the music, move side to side lol.

You are going to be at a dance so its different than if you were sitting in a coffee shop. There is more excitement and this could be good, and the other people might be good to give you a break in conversation with her. Just be open to a good time. Remind yourself that you don't know anyone there, and its ok to be yourself.
 

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Thanks for the advice Madison and Pink, I think I'm just gonna relax, have fun, and let things happen as they may.. lol thanks
 
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