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So, I'm invited to this party at a nightclub tomorrow night. I've never been to a nightclub or a bar before. I don't know if I should go, because I really don't like noise or big crowds.
What do you all think? Should I go? What kind of strategies should I use if I get nervous?
I have no idea what to do.
 

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If you never went then it would be a good chance to see what it's like. If you get nervous try and find one of your friends and hang around them or sit down if they have a lounge area to relax.
 

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I encourage you to go too!! Its awesome that you have been invited out into the social scene. I used too hang out in night clubs...I like dancing and hip hop music. Although a lounge is more my style, soft music where I can communicate. One warning though, nightclubs are a socially contrived/distorted reality, therefore, remember that people are all equal while there and that the social heirarchy of glamor and status is b.s.-Capeche? We are all VIP..hehe
 

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If you never went then it would be a good chance to see what it's like. If you get nervous try and find one of your friends and hang around them or sit down if they have a lounge area to relax.
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I go to nightclubs to relax. (if only I had friends to go with) I grab some drinks, just sit down, and enjoy my fav music, as I watch all the crazy people around me.. :)
 

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Just wanted to let you all know that I had a great time at the club. Thanks for all the encouragement! You guys rock
 

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That's good to hear. I was just about to post saying that you shouldn't go but I'm glad you had a good experience!
 

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So, I'm invited to this party at a nightclub tomorrow night. I've never been to a nightclub or a bar before. I don't know if I should go, because I really don't like noise or big crowds.
What do you all think? Should I go? What kind of strategies should I use if I get nervous?
I have no idea what to do.
Some people here don't go because they're nervous, others because they never have anyone to go with. At least you're beyond one of those problems, so I say give it a shot. Just wing it... do as others in here have mentioned. If you don't like it, then you'll know for the future, but it's better to know than not to know.
 

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The best advice that I can give you: If you think it will make you unhappy then don't go, but just because you may dislike crowds, you can ALWAYS have fun by yourself.
 

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Clubs are so loud you can't really talk to anyone. I've always wondered if the people who like clubs like that part, meaning they aren't good talkers and stuff.
 

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Just wanted to let you all know that I had a great time at the club. Thanks for all the encouragement! You guys rock
congrats on going. Hopefully you didn't excessively drink, i learned to gradually avoid my safety behaviours like stalling in the washroom or drinking heavily and the more i went the better i felt about being in the moment
 

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I am happy to hear you had a great time. I have always had a horrible time at clubs the few times I have went. Everyone is so social, dancing, hooking up. I just feel so out of place in such a setting. I also get jealous of the other people.
 
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