Does anyone got this feeling that its not like we are afraid of going out side but dont want to i mean i dont know like you got this lazyness that you dont want to do social stuff and its better to be alone in the house like in one point you want gf friends affecting caring loving and all this stuff but wont do anything for it like if someone asks you to go somewhere you say no.
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Yes, this is exactly how it is for me. I dont actually like social activities. But i didn't have problems getting invites to places in the past. I just didn't want to go to those places.
Over the past many years I've settled into a lifestyle where I basicly never leave the house. It's not that im agoraphobic really, maybe a tiny bit, but I just can't be bothered. I do not feel comfortable with other people and I don't like being outside. My girlfriend is pretty good about it. She always asks me to go with her to social things but expects me to say no.
The real huge problem in my life is that I can't get a job. Writing an application is very difficult for me because I feel that no one in their right mind would ever hire me, if I were honest in describing myself. Going to an interview would lower my chances even more. And worst of all, the thought of having to go somewhere with other people everyday completely horrifies me. At the moment I've been forced into some job training, after having been on disability for 2 years. I guess to test my tolerance to the real world. So far, it's been a nightmare.
If I could live on permanent disability, I could live the rest of my life without ever leaving my bedroom. But that's not what I want with my life. I desperately want to be able to feel the desire to go out and do things.. but I don't.
The real huge problem in my life is that I can't get a job. Writing an application is very difficult for me because I feel that no one in their right mind would ever hire me, if I were honest in describing myself. Going to an interview would lower my chances even more. And worst of all, the thought of having to go somewhere with other people everyday completely horrifies me. At the moment I've been forced into some job training, after having been on disability for 2 years. I guess to test my tolerance to the real world. So far, it's been a nightmare.
If I could live on permanent disability, I could live the rest of my life without ever leaving my bedroom. But that's not what I want with my life. I desperately want to be able to feel the desire to go out and do things.. but I don't.
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exactly, I don't mind going out. I just don't like crowds of people. In the summer I go to visit my mom in Florida and have a nice time on the beach when its fairly empty, I went deep sea fishing once, I go for rides with my family all the time from simply shopping or to visit relatives who live elsewhere and its fun, though I enjoy the ride much more than the destination for some weird reason. I got a four wheeler when I was about 12 and another at 16 and I would go ride them in Tennessee and had a good time and maybe once a year I go deer hunting down there. I also go play tennis with my sister and dad sometimes and its ok. I do like going out sometimes, but everything I like doing is generally loner activities or include a group of no more than 4 or 5 people that I would know really well(family). Of course don't let my post mislead you, I still spend 80% of my free time in a house, as around here its the only way to really avoid large amounts of people. Don't know if its exactly what you getting at but yea, I can relate to not wanting to deal with many people instead of the activities themselves.
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Its hard to describe. I fear places. But once i'm used to them i usually get comfortable with them. And it depends who is there. if i see someone that looks intimidating, i will leave.
I dont have any desire to go to places, but i do want friends etc. The problem is that alot of people like going out alot.
I guess i'm just an introvert with social anxiety. I can go out, but people intimidate me, and i dont have much interest in just going to a bowling alley or something like that.
i mean i realy did try to hang around with people but i dont know i cant say i didnt enjoy it but i dont know i guess i liked being home my friend always invites me to go to partys movies and doesnt understand why i dont realy want i fell like i am making excuses why not to go out i went to some places here and there but i dont know i dont even know why i like being alone at home some times i dont even know whats the point of hanging around with other people in this big groups i dont get the point of nightclubs and all this social teen stuff my friend thinks that i am a totall ******* and anti social and is like whats your problem and yeah he is right
Totally. I got invited to hang out with two different sets of friends tonight but instead of going to either, I am here. I sometimes find it draining to hang out with people, i have to appear somewhat social, nobody wants to be around a moody quiet person.
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i know what you mean, arti. but at the same time i think part of it IS actual fear. i fear being around people who might judge me. i like social activities, and i want to go, but if someone asks me i make excuses. i think it's because you know the stress will be taxing if you go, and it's better to just avoid it altogether. like i always have to struggle when i go out with people. i never know what to say or how to act and i'm always afraid of being judged.
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I don't feel the desire to go out and make friends etc. I want these things, but at the same time I feel like it's not worth the effort. Part of it is fear of rejection.
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