[andy1984]

My gf suggested that I might be writing stuff about her on the internet earlier today. I haven't yet but meh, why not...

I've been in a relationship with a girl for a few years and we live together but I feel a little trapped. We're a little co-dependant and now it is becomming more and more clear that she is actually asexual. She's probably gonna read this because she is kind of shy and has started comming to this site too - she kinda hijacked it off of me and now I feel a bit weird about posting here, mostly because she talks to people a lot more than I do which just highlights to me how socially inept I am... I really love her but the relationship is quite uncomfortable a lot of the time.

I feel like if I met someone else - which will never happen because I don't talk to people - I would attempt to get to know them in a sort of 'I hope you can be my new gf' sort of way. Which is confusing because I do still love my gf. I alternate between doubting our relationship and having the greatest confidence that is going to be ok. I think that's quite unhealthy and I don't see us resolving it any time soon.

Anyway, just ranting about my troubles. I think I'm better off with her for now and she understands the problems also.

 

[andy1984]

Your girlfriend isn't asexual dude.

Maybe she is and maybe she is not - a while ago she told me she was, and now she is less sure.

I'm not really gonna talk about this too much cause it wouldn't be very fair to her...

Thanks for the replies anyway. I am currently in an optimistic mood, but I know it will deteriorate in a few days.

Really I wanted to point out that as an SAer I feel more dependent on her as she is the only gf I am likely to ever have. I'm afraid of losing her but I'm also afraid of being stuck in an unhealthy relationship. There seems to be no way of changing things and the situation makes me moody and sad a lot of the time. I'm not really looking for a sex-related solution because thats not really all that changeable. Maybe I just whining. I feel like I need to talk about to someone but I have no friends...