[Brightpaperwarewolf]

Your girlfriend isn't asexual dude. But if you have this attitude like "she isn't giving me sex, therefore I'll find someone else to satisfy this urge, it doesn't really solve anything. Who knows, she might be sad and feeling very unsexy and your attempts just are futile because you know each other and you are going through the motions.

But on the other hand, you have to stir the pot you know. Think about the first time you to did it, think about how in terms of style what was it then compared to today, what was different in terms of leading to the moment and what you did then that's different now.