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I know this pathetic really...but it's keeping a giant hole in my life where there should be a women. Does anyone have experiences they can share with getting over this fear? I'm sure as this is the relationship forum there's people in here that have experienced it. I have reduced my social anxiety around everyone but pretty women.

I've been told I'm an attractive guy, I've had sex a couple of times (once with someone special but turned out she was just cheating on her boyfriend). But when I am around someone I am attracted to thoughts just start racing through my head and I become frozen in panic.

just one example (this was tonight) - I was with someone who I find gorgeous in every sense of the word. There were brief moments where I was my true self, and I could see it in her eyes that she wanted me to keep going, that she liked what I was doing/saying. But I get so damn locked up with fear and become intensely self concious (thinking that I'm ugly). And as soon as this happens she becomes uncomfortable and the moment is ruined.
 

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just do it :) over and over until your fear lessens. I know-easier said than done. You are capable of lots and I believe you can get over this fear :)
 

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You know that disgusting excretion process you do every day? The one that's so undignifying that you can't perform it in public? Yeah, women do that too...

Think about it....
 

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I know how you feel. I didn't know exactly how I got over it, but I think I started "recovering" when I became friends with a girl near my house on the internet. Then we started hanging out (the first meetup was AWKWARD LIKE HELL), and after a while I suddenly became comfortable around the opposite sex.
 

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Hey man you've already had sex and stuff, you are way ahead of where I was when I started approaching girls...I just was soooo sick and tired of being lonely that I pushed all those negative thoughts about being awkward away and just went for it. Had never even kissed a girl but I decided I wanted to and I didn't stop until I ended up with a girlfriend, going to bars by myself and just putting myself out there. You already have some experience so just buck up and keep at it and you'll do fine.
 
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