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Since my sister moved out she keeps hounding me to get on facebook so we can talk more. A friend's asked me to as well. So I said to my sister a few months ago fine if you want you make me an account then. But I never used it just have her and one friend on it. So I've just been ignoring it. I deviously went on it once to check my bf's account and noticed he'd changed his status from "in a relationship" to nothing... lovely. Having not said anything to me that is. Anyway that's given me kind of a sour take on the whole facebook thing. I signed on for the hell of it and ten people had added me. Now I've left work and because I keep myself to myself people who I'd consider friends although didn't see them outside of work, well now I've just lost touch with them all. I thought it'd be the easiest way of keeping in contact with alot of people. Some of those people are friends with him too so I was avoiding it cos I don't need to hear anything about him I'd rather pretend he doesn't exist.

So I was thinking some friends have pictures of me on there some I'm not so happy about but **** it the world does not revolve around me. My sister has some of me as well so I wouldn't have to keep it completely bare. But I get stressed about things like this, the pictures is one thing, writing a profile and all that that's why my profile on here's empty. I don't like to talk about myself. I notice alot of people on here are on facebook though, does it stress you out?
 

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my profile is so lame, i got about 150 ppl on there....nothing major and i do talk to alot of them but only close to a few but thats fine, i dont have any details about me nor do i have any pictures and ive been on FB for over a year now

it is stressful cause i wish i still knew these ppl personally
 

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I've never had a facebook, I have a myspace though. I don't have any friends unfortunately. I'm like the saddest lonliest myspace member ever, I should get a ribbon but Tom won't give me one.
 

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Yeah, facebook stresses me out a lot. It has been nice to get back in touch with a few of my old friends, but I usually leave the site feeling anxious and depressed.
 

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I rather enjoy Facebook... occasionally it pisses me off or causes anxiety, but for the most part I like seeing what is going on in other people's lives without interacting with them. Is that weird? It takes out the stress of socializing, I guess. I've caught up with some people I was friends with and lost contact. For some reason, it's easier for people to drop me a line on FB than call. I think people take FB way too seriously sometimes though. After all, it's just a social networking site.
 

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I have a fb account but no one ever comments on any of my stuff or say anything. Only my bf. I am like wtf and I here for
 

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my profile is so lame, i got about 150 ppl on there....nothing major
Oh no, I was quite proud when I passed the 150 people mark! :clap
Maybe I should up my fb standards?! lol.

I think fb is good for certain things... I keep in touch with my two really close friends and family members that live far way now. Sometimes random people from highschool/uni will get in touch... but I HAVE gone on fb purges where I "unfriend" people that I realizes are *******s for example.

It is a shame that so much of fb IS about being a voyeur, seeing what other people are doing, and judging them (and vice versa). I think some of these feelings/behaviours are just natural... everyone can get jealous or competative and wants to look as good as possible to others. But I suppose you just have to keep those thoughts it check... no matter what, you are never going to seem "cool" to everyone.
 

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I rather enjoy Facebook... occasionally it pisses me off or causes anxiety, but for the most part I like seeing what is going on in other people's lives without interacting with them. Is that weird? It takes out the stress of socializing, I guess. I've caught up with some people I was friends with and lost contact. For some reason, it's easier for people to drop me a line on FB than call. I think people take FB way too seriously sometimes though. After all, it's just a social networking site.
I don't think it's weird no I think it's what people generally do. When I was at a friends we were looking at people from school's profiles people she doesn't even talk to on it.

150? so far I have 10 friends lol.

I want to get a picture up so people know it's me... I don't think there'll be many people with the exact same name but it makes it more personal. Then mainly I want to get in touch with people from college and from work who I've lost touch with. It's so hard to exchange numbers it's so stressful for me... maybe it is for "normal" people too and that's why they use these sites? because it's easier? Personally I'd like to use it as a first point of contact then try and meet up with people. I'm trying really hard to work on friendships, I'd been focusing on relationships but friendships are the relationships that if you work on and maintain it'll benefit you the most. I see that now.
 

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I think facebook is definately helpful if you're trying to socialise these days. Everyone's always asking ''you got a facebook account?' before asking for numbers or any of that. And i'd guess it can help keep in touch with people.

I'm still not going to use it though, i just dislike everything about it. I don't like putting up a profile of myself that anyone could read, i mean i act differently around certain people so i don't know how i could write one i'd be happy with everyone reading anyway. Then there's the whole friend count, wall post popularity contest stuff. And It's depressing looking at how much better everyone else is getting along too... i really don't want to talk to anyone from my past.
 

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I wish I could do facebook but I don't really know many people. In high school I probably scared the **** out of everybody by my strangeness, so I don't think any of them would add me. And of course I have alot of people I used to know where I just disappeared from their lives, it would be kind of awkward if they tried to contact me.
 

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I think I'd like to get on facebook if only to let people know I'm still alive but I'm too scared of the thought that people will find my lack of friends amusing and lower their opinion of me further. I made a fake account under a fake name so I could look at other peoples pages to see what they are doing, pretty pathetic I know.
 

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I can't really be bothered with Facebook. There are people I could add as friends on my profile, but I'm a bit meh about the whole thing. I just don't see the point of it. I prefer to stick with sites like Flickr, which have an actual purpose, than ones that seem to be nothing but an endless stream of...

Kyle is scratching his nose.
Kyle has just been to the shop for some biscuits. They were custard cremes, BTW.
Kyle can't be bothered typing any of more of this inane, vacuous nonsense.
 

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I can't really be bothered with Facebook. There are people I could add as friends on my profile, but I'm a bit meh about the whole thing. I just don't see the point of it. I prefer to stick with sites like Flickr, which have an actual purpose, than ones that seem to be nothing but an endless stream of...

Kyle is scratching his nose.
Kyle has just been to the shop for some biscuits. They were custard cremes, BTW.
Kyle can't be bothered typing any of more of this inane, vacuous nonsense.
Lol! that made me laugh!!

Is Flickr just like a photo album kind of thing?
I've been sort of against the facebook thing too. Partly because of that guy, can't believe he did that, prick. Also I don't like the whole competetive nature of it. I want it just to keep in touch with people. Like "Meee" said people don't even ask for numbers now as much as they do facebook. It seems the easiest way to not completely lose people from my life. Seems you have to cling onto the friends you have. Good friends are a good thing to hold onto and make effort with. I guess it's not that big of a deal how many friends you have on it? Do people actually look at that? I haven't, and if someone does, isn't that kind of pathetic? My sister was saying you can just get on it to keep in touch with friends and not be hardcore about it she said one of her best friends only has like twenty contacts... she was like she's just cool about it you can just be casual about it. Just sign on a few times to do what you have to do.
 

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Lol! that made me laugh!!
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Is Flickr just like a photo album kind of thing?
Yep. The world's biggest photo album! :)

I've been sort of against the facebook thing too. Partly because of that guy, can't believe he did that, prick. Also I don't like the whole competetive nature of it.
There certainly seems to be a culture of collecting friends on there. Some people seem to view it as a competition to see who can get the most, even though many of their friends may be people they've never even communicated with. As if someone having several thousand Facebook "friends" is going to impress anybody.

I want it just to keep in touch with people. Like "Meee" said people don't even ask for numbers now as much as they do facebook. It seems the easiest way to not completely lose people from my life. Seems you have to cling onto the friends you have. Good friends are a good thing to hold onto and make effort with.
Oh I totally agree with that. It's just that Facebook isn't the way I'd want to do it. I'd much rather have someone's phone number, and speak to them, or meet up and hang out with them, or even write them one of those old-fashioned paper and pen letter things. ;)

I guess it's not that big of a deal how many friends you have on it? Do people actually look at that? I haven't, and if someone does, isn't that kind of pathetic?
Yes, I'd say it is, but there are people on there who set great store by the number of friends they've collected. Like you say, it's kind of pathetic. If I were to have a Facebook page, I'd rather have a handful of people on it that I really wanted to keep in contact with than several thousand people, most of who were just meaningless names. But like I say, I'd rather have more personal, meaningful contact with those people than I'd get through Facebook anyway.

My sister was saying you can just get on it to keep in touch with friends and not be hardcore about it she said one of her best friends only has like twenty contacts... she was like she's just cool about it you can just be casual about it. Just sign on a few times to do what you have to do.
Oh yeah, I'm not saying that you have to be hardcore about it. I'm just saying that if you have to use Facebook to keep in contact with a friend, then how much of a friend are they anyway?
 

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I have one but no one really comments me or anything.
 

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Oh yeah, I'm not saying that you have to be hardcore about it. I'm just saying that if you have to use Facebook to keep in contact with a friend, then how much of a friend are they anyway?
Because I left work really abruptly if I'd told them beforehand I'd make an effort to exchange numbers. Like I have with some friends who've left work "I'll give you my number so we can keep in touch" and then we DO keep in touch. It's like you're friends at work and spend alot of time together there but can still go out and spend time together in a different environment if you get on. People have asked me for my facebook and I should've said I don't have it I'll give you my number though.
 

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Facebook is the worst thing ever... It sucks that you have to put your whole name down for the world to see, plus pictures, personal information, etc. It's just a phonebook for stalkers.
 

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it would stress me a lot, still slightly does, consider it to an extent some sort of exposure for yourself, which is never a negative thing
 

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I have a Facebook account but I get really stressed out with it. I don't do much on it and everyone can see that. I only have a few friends and everyone can see that too so it is stressful. I keep hoping I can meet a good friend on it but it hasn't happened yet.
 
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