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I mean nearly all of you've a Job, Home, and some even a "Wife and kids' in other words a BUSY LIFE, so y r u still looking for friends?
 

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What is wrong with wanting friends?

Yes, I have a family life but I also spend a lot of time by myself. I would like to have a friend to confide in, and to enjoy thier company; especially someone who shares my interests, which I lack at this time.

You are never too old for friends, actually the older you get the more you need them.
 

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Not everyone has a job/home/spouse/2.5 kids and a busy life at 30.

Most of my friends are a bit older than me, in their mid to late 30s, and they are just coupling up again, or single. A few are married, a few divorced. Same situation as 20s but maybe more stable with the relationships.

A very small amount have bought a house, most rent, and some still live with their parents.

Most have a job, but not all. Some are voluntarily unemployed or just freelancing. Some have cars, but a lot don't. None of my friends have kids, but some acquaintances do.

Some have long distance relationships, one is older (50s) and never married and back living with mom. One is my age and living with a not so legal American bf until he can get sponsored to be a citizen. One is a grandfather in his 40s with a son turning into a daughter. One lives in a trailer house with his brother, mom, sister and nephew.

I think I have average friends for a middle class person living in a mid-sized city. Some are from Toronto, and those ones are living even less stereotypical but very interesting lives. Some are online gaming friends I've kept in touch with for the past decade.

As you get older you realize almost nobody has that kind of tv sitcom life you're talking about, and even if they do, it only lasts for a brief time. Kids move out, people divorce or die. Jobs and partners come and go. People come out as gay and look for similar friends and support.

It's always good to meet new people. New opportunities for jobs or relationships or whatever are always good things, otherwise you become a hermit stuck in a rut that has no idea how diverse everyone else's life is.
 

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I'm divorced with no kids. My friend are all married with kids so it's hard for them to find time to hangout.
 

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Well this is depressing, I should have a good job, own home, girlfriend/wife and children of my own by now. Well maybe i shouldn't, everyone else I know has by my age, but I'm not everybody else... But busy life or not, why not want new friends? I sure as hell want some.
 

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I've been looking for friends since long before this. I really want someone who can understand me, who i can talk to...but i still have none. should i give up now?
 

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I mean nearly all of you've a Job, Home, and some even a "Wife and kids' in other words a BUSY LIFE, so y r u still looking for friends?
That's the problem. So many people my age do have these things, and I don't. That's why I would like to have friends. Unfortunately, I think your assumption is correct, i.e. that a lot of people who are married, have kids and have a job--or even if they're just married and have a job--don't particularly look for or spend much time with friends. I don't understand why people think they don't need anyone except their spouse once they get married and why other people seem to think that's okay, especially for women, who often are the ones who have their identities and life enjoyment taken from them when they get married and have kids. It's ridiculous how people dump their friends just because they get a boyfriend, girlfriend, get engaged, etc, and think that's okay or correct.

I do have a job, but that's all the more reason to need friends. I can't stand my job and would love to have someone to unwind with after I get off work, help me get my mind off it, give me something to look forward to after work and give me someone I actually like to talk to after spending all day with people I don't like, etc, instead of just sitting home watching TV and trying to stay awake. Also, if I don't have friends at this age, I don't really see how I'm going to get married. I'm not meeting anyone. You can use the internet to date, sure, but...long story short, meeting someone in person through people I know might work better for me.

No one needs just one person in the world, and it actually seems like it'd be a burden to your spouse to always be that one person for all your needs/thoughts/conversation/etc. There's nothing wrong with being married and having a job and still wanting friends. Wish more people understood that.
 

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. I don't understand why people think they don't need anyone except their spouse once they get married and why other people seem to think that's okay, especially for women, who often are the ones who have their identities and life enjoyment taken from them when they get married and have kids. It's ridiculous how people dump their friends just because they get a boyfriend, girlfriend, get engaged, etc, and think that's okay or correct.
It's a matter of priority. Many people choose to spend their limited time with family over friends. A close relationship requires time and effort and you can only have so many in your life at one time or they start competing with each other.

Friends also get dumped when kids come along....Just a process of friends coming and going in life I guess.
 

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Not everyone has a job/home/spouse/2.5 kids and a busy life at 30.
I think this is so important to note. I'm perhaps one of the rare over 30 guys that has none of these things... well 1 out of 5.

I have a seasonal job that pays about 15k per year. So not surprising that I have no money, no spouse, no kids, and no home. I live at home with my parents. Not proud of that, but it's the harsh reality of my f'd up life.

And the fact that people expect or assume that by 30 any normal person should have all these things, just makes my life even harder as I have to deal with the embarrassment of those people who look down on me for not having it.
 

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got engaged recently, had a hard time deciding who my best man should be. I Don't have a best friend so it was hard. Every one I know has pissed me off to some level , I even have doubts about my fiancée. This year I found out a lot about who people are, people that I believed were my friends. 2 people that I cared to mention, both of which are mental. Both of which I didn't see it coming. I honestly think its not the quantity of friends you have but the quality.
 

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I am a 44-year-old student (second career type of thing) with a husband and dog no kids. I would like to connect with others maybe we all could do fun things together.

I would also like to meet people to validate ME because I have never had friends, someone I could relate to besides guys who are interested in me as a female.
 

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I mean nearly all of you've a Job, Home, and some even a "Wife and kids' in other words a BUSY LIFE, so y r u still looking for friends?
I am 46 and still looking for friends. I have one friend who I have known over 30 years and who I can depend on if I needed to. The rest of the people (5) are associates' who I am friendly with and they are friendly with me but I can't depend on. So I would like to make more friends that I can depend on.
 

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I'm not looking for friends,i have never had them so don't know how to maintain a friendship or whats expected.I can't socialise in pubs etc.. so i don't imagine i'd be much fun to hang out with lol.
 

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I am a 39-year-old female. I never married or had kids. Besides social anxiety, I also suffered from chronic fatigue syndrome. Many times, I felt too anxious and tired to go out. The problem is most of my former friends liked to socialize at bars, which is my least favorite place! I have only had a couple close friends at a time. A good friendship ended with a male a couple years ago because he wanted to more than friends. Now that I think of it, I have met all my former friends at a school. And I have not taken any classes recently to meet new people. It seems like the anxiety became worse as I got older because I feel behind others for my age. As a child, I was so anxious I could not speak in public (selective mutism). Although I can speak in public now, the anxiety still exists in public places. I do not think I have told any of my former friends about my anxiety. Group settings activate my anxiety, but I feel fine socializing one-on-one. It would be great to have a friend who understands. Please feel free to PM or email me anytime. :)
 
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