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Nothing happened for me. I got mine really late (14 or 15), so I'd already been through the school required "girls meeting" where such things were discussed. My Mom said something like "Oh, finally." and bought some pads and that was that.
 

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in some cultures they have bigger celebrations with relatives and such. a peer at school who i believe was indian was saying how for her first period her family put on a celebration which had some specific rituals and she received gifts. interesting.


it wasn't really celebrated for me. mine was pretty awful actually. i was at summer camp the first time.. ugh. when i got home my mum and i didn't really talk about it in depth, she just gave me pads to use. ohh and it got even better cause the next early morning we had to leave for a 24hour trip (two flights) all the way to the mediterrean. that was really stressful for me :/
 

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celebrating it is a good idea. it promotes openness about the topic which may hopefully have your daughter feeling more comfortable to be open about other personal topics she will deal with later on. i don't think i felt that way as much as i should have.

the cake thing is sweet of your mum. did she decorate or write anything on it? :p
 

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I didn't tell anyone. I never mentioned my period as a teenager, and I always bought my own pads and tampons and hid them so my mom wouldn't notice.
 

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I told my mom I got it, left the room, and never brought it up again.

It seems really...foreign to me that people would openly talk about it or celebrate it.
 

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I dont really remember too much about exactly what she did, I was 11! it happened overnight and I woke mum up to tell her. lol. But I know that I felt like it was accepted and that it wasnt taboo. I know she baked a cake and said congradulations. lol.

I think its a great thing to be open and honest with your mother, but I think now that my sister and I are older, we think we go a bit far sometimes. I mean.. there is NOTHING we dont talk about with our mother.. NOTHING. :eek: I guess thats why sometimes I have no problem talking about things that others dont really want to know. lol.
i think thats fantastic, its great to be so open about everything.

i did feel it was accepted but i still wasn't something i could talk about easily, with my mum i was still nervous about it but especially with other family members i couldn't talk about it at all. which is weird when you think about it. if you have a health problem giving you physical pain and emotional distress you'd be open about it, you'd think. i was living with my grandparents and brother for a while the summer after i got it soo i couldn't just be like "sorry grandma and grandpa and [brother], the reason i was taking so long in my room and why i don't want to swim is because i'm on my period", when they would ask a question with everyone else in the room.

then there was the whole SA thing that made it all extra difficult...
 

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I dunno about this thread.

I was behind Kelly and everyone else a few days ago. But as I am reading this thread now all I can think of are creepy men who are masturbating while reading young girls' posts about their periods, at what age they had their first one, if they are using tampax or whatever and so on.

I am a feminist and I will stand up for our right to be free and talk of whatever, whenever. But I am also 34 and have seen a few things. There are many leering men lurking in many corners! Being free means not to be made to shut up by men, true. But while you are revealing very intimate things about yourselves here you are playing right into the hands of those who try to keep you down.

Young girls who innocently reveal very intimate details about their sexuality while not realising that they are being watched (i.e. read) by the predator is the ultimate pornographic fantasy of those men!

And how do you know that not one of them will sign up and pretend to be a girl and ask you stuff?

There is a grey area between being free to talk and victimising oneself. Keep your wits about you. Stand up for your right to talk but don't do it when voyeurists and predators can listen.

Edit: add: So basically I think this thread should go into the women's section.
 

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That's so sweet, that your Mum baked a cake for you! I recall feeling less than happy when I got mine. Still hate periods - yuck yuck yuck! Mum told me that gettting hers made her feel special and grown up, and part of her wanted to run around telling everyone she knew (not that she could - taboo!)
 

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I dunno about this thread.

I was behind Kelly and everyone else a few days ago. But as I am reading this thread now all I can think of are creepy men who are masturbating while reading young girls' posts about their periods, at what age they had their first one, if they are using tampax or whatever and so on.

I am a feminist and I will stand up for our right to be free and talk of whatever, whenever. But I am also 34 and have seen a few things. There are many leering men lurking in many corners! Being free means not to be made to shut up by men, true. But while you are revealing very intimate things about yourselves here you are playing right into the hands of those who try to keep you down.

Young girls who innocently reveal very intimate details about their sexuality while not realising that they are being watched (i.e. read) by the predator is the ultimate pornographic fantasy of those men!

And how do you know that not one of them will sign up and pretend to be a girl and ask you stuff?

There is a grey area between being free to talk and victimising oneself. Keep your wits about you. Stand up for your right to talk but don't do it when voyeurists and predators can listen.

Edit: add: So basically I think this thread should go into the women's section.
I don't really care if some internet perv is getting his jollies reading this. If someone could sign up and pretend to be a girl, then he could ask for access to the women's group. Internet pervs are only dangerous when they groom kids and meet with them. I think men should be able to read about periods if they want to - after all, some of them have, or will have daughters.
 

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I was 15, and unfortunately my mom happened to be in the hospital at the time so I was on my own. I'm from the old days, so I had some wierd napkin thing with a belt that my mom had stuck in my closet years before. It wasn't something I would mention to my dad. In short -- there was no celebration. I'll be expecting gifts from all of you when I hit menopause though. :O)
 

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I dunno about this thread.

I was behind Kelly and everyone else a few days ago. But as I am reading this thread now all I can think of are creepy men who are masturbating while reading young girls' posts about their periods, at what age they had their first one, if they are using tampax or whatever and so on.

I am a feminist and I will stand up for our right to be free and talk of whatever, whenever. But I am also 34 and have seen a few things. There are many leering men lurking in many corners! Being free means not to be made to shut up by men, true. But while you are revealing very intimate things about yourselves here you are playing right into the hands of those who try to keep you down.

Young girls who innocently reveal very intimate details about their sexuality while not realising that they are being watched (i.e. read) by the predator is the ultimate pornographic fantasy of those men!

And how do you know that not one of them will sign up and pretend to be a girl and ask you stuff?

There is a grey area between being free to talk and victimising oneself. Keep your wits about you. Stand up for your right to talk but don't do it when voyeurists and predators can listen.

Edit: add: So basically I think this thread should go into the women's section.
come on. you can find creepy internet predators who masturbate to just about anything.

in the members photo section underage members have posted pictures and actually got responses along lines of "too bad you're under 18" from a lot of members. i think posting photos of oneself when they are under legal age is a lot more explicit and more likely to attract creeps than writing about how crummy it was when you got your period at age 11.

can you refer to the intimate details of girls' sexuality that were written here? i can't find them.

quite honestly your logic just doesn't make sense to me.
 

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I was 12 and it was Christmas eve. I didn't tell my mom until three or four months later. She looked excited and said congratulations. Later that night, she told me not to get pregnant. I'm surprised that we talked about it as much as that; my mom is the sort of person who is deeply offended by pad and tampon commercials.
 

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When i got mine i told my Mum so I didn't have to go out and buy pads or tampons.
I cant remember how old i was.
But no me getting my period wasn't celebrated.
In fact my family is the type of family that dosent do big celebrations other then birthdays and christmas.
My parents didnt even go out for dinner for the 20th wedding anniversary a few months ago which i think is quite sad.
I have a 2 yr old daughter and when she gets her period im going to say congragulations and i'll take her out for dinner and just make sure theday is special for her.
 

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Nope no celebration, my mom just looked proud and said "aww my little girl is growing up!" or something to that effect. I started crying because I couldn't go swimming with my friend like I had planned.:rain
 

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Aw, you got a cake? That's sweet.
I remember being very mature, I guess, about it at 13. The house was full of women (mom, sister, aunt, me), so I knew about it, plus I'd had sex ed like three months before. I basically went and told my mom and she told me to clean up and gave me what I needed and there was no more talk about it.

I have experienced other girls being completely unprepared for it and I honestly feel for them. My 'friend' in 6th grade got it at school, on a field trip, and she seriously thought she was dying or sick or something. Our group of friends, if you can call them that, were prepared and we talked her through everything and took her to the teacher and all that. I'm not judging, but I think it's rather weird to never tell your female child about what will happen to her. Otherwise, she'll end up getting it, maybe in place like a restaurant where my friend got hers, crying, hysterical, and unprepared because she has no idea what is going on.

I have a 2 yr old daughter and when she gets her period im going to say congragulations and i'll take her out for dinner and just make sure theday is special for her.
If I have kids, I plan to do the same thing with my girl(s).
 
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