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Has anyone here actually been fired because of SA?

I pretty much was...but I quit the day before I was meant to get my termination letter, just so you know I didn't technically get fired ha.

But yeah, I had my first professional job out of university for a software development company working in kind of an analyst position and I could not handle it. I had to work in a team of about fifteen, so I had to talk with several of them each day about issues and get them to help me with my work...so being proactive was the key to succeeding in the job. This was incredibly uncomfortable for me, I can't just go up to someone and talk like that...especially in an open office where everyone can listen in to what i'm saying. I tried hard and got up and was as talkative as I could be, but It wasn't good enough and my manager was on to me about it. I got several written warnings saying I wasn't talking enough pretty much...it was so depressing! I just could not fit in to their team because i'm so paranoid. All I needed was a friend...someone to talk to there and get me feeling comfortable about the environment. But yeah if I didn't have social anxiety i would still be working there and be well on the way to a good career in software development...but because of it, I had to come home and go back to university...because I sure as hell don't want another job like that just at the moment!
 

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this is one of my biggest fears. I have serious anxiety when people can overhear you so being proactive is hard. Plus, as you climb the corporate ladder, we're expected to have leadership skills and I have none. :afr
 

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I've been reading a lot of posts lately about people being fired for reasons related to quietness. It's too bad because quiet people have a lot to offer.
 

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I wonder if you could sue for being fired because of SAD. It an actual disorder after all.
It appears that the termination would have been performance-related and not because of the disorder.

They cannot terminate your employment because of your disorder.

The unfortunate thing is that this is what we deal with in the field. We have to meet with other developers on a frequent basis or the program goes in different directions. I am in quality control, so I pretty much have to overlook and make sure the program works - all facets of it. I also have to speak with managers on what needs fixing. I had a rough time at first, but getting comfortable with other people and realizing that (1) they are not out to get me and (2) they have their own worries and fears, helped me out.

Franky - I would work on this. It is probably the most interesting part of the job. There is so much you can learn from other people. I would take advantage of something like that :).
 

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I've quit two jobs (one a summer studentship and another as a checkout operator at a supermarket) and my performance was seriously impaired (my boss wasn't impressed at all) in an earlier studentship due to anxiety/SA. I keep leaving things unfinished and I am at a loss to explain why - I find someway to screw it up.
 

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I keep leaving things unfinished also. I quit 1 internship and 1 job. I was in the training period of the job. I had to interview people and during the training I just could not do a face to face interview because I just kept losing my train of thought. At some point the person training me got so frustrated. I ended up quiting right on the spot. I just could not handle the pressure of being put on the spot in front of so many people. I kept joking around to basically cover my problem but at some point this behavior jus pissed off my boss.

This SA is really a horrible thing to have. It jus prevents you from operating in society.

If anything, SA is just making me more frustrated, more lazy and more careless
 

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At work I'm able to disguise my SA really well. In college it usually gets to me when I have to do oral presentations, but it's not as bad as it was in high school. But whenever I have to do a team projects or work in a team, it doesn't bother me that much.
 

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It's really hard when your manager asks whats wrong and is really frustrated with your performance...It's like well I know exactly what is wrong with me, but there is no way i'm going to tell you all about it.
 

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It's really hard when your manager asks whats wrong and is really frustrated with your performance...It's like well I know exactly what is wrong with me, but there is no way i'm going to tell you all about it.
Haha , i can relate to that.
 

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yeah I was fired due to my SA, but it's kind of intricate, I did my job just fine but I never moved ahead because my SA kept me from moving forward. So I quit. I managed to get 2 weeks unemployment out of my job but... I'm still ticked off. Eh... I'm really not sure. I'm glad I quit but I really want to have another job.
 

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I have only been fired from 1 job(my last one), but have quit a bunch of them. My SA is so intense. Working in a office with a bunch of people, Oh My God! I always have pretty much liked to keep to myself, and people can't handle it. I don't care. Too many people want to jack their jaws. I just want to put in my time and get the h--- out of there. I have to find something in a setting that will suit me, but so far, no luck.
 

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I was fired from Krogers because I was 'too shy' (at least, according to the managers.)
Did you have a job at Kroger that requires being talkative? At the one I go to even the Greeters hardly say anything. I see a lot of people stocking stuff. There is a guy that stands at the end of the self-checkout with a scanner. He doesn't say anything. The regular cashiers basically scan stuff and take money. And then someone silently pushes the cart and unloads groceries. Or least that's what I observe.
 
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