[soundofsilence]

I've been dating a guy for about a month now and things have been going really well. We haven't yet met anyone in eachothers lives, but I feel like that's going to happen soon. The thing is, my biggest insecurity is my social life. It sucks. I don't have a group of friends, I have a handful of friends which I hang out with once and a while. The one friend I see on a regular basis, I don't actually like and have tried (unsuccessfully) to phase her out several times. He on the other hand, has a close group of friends he's known since elementry school. He's so close with all of them, he has so much fun when he's out with them and he does all kinds of things I've never done because of my SA (drinking, going to concert, etc). All of this really intimidates me, but now, as I think we are approaching a time where we would start meeting other people in each other's lives I'm getting scared. I'm worried he'll think I'm a loser and be completely turned off by me when he realises how bad my social life is. And I'm also worried that I won't be able to do a good job fitting in with his friends, because of my SA. And they are like a second family to him, so I feel like I have to.

What do you guys think, is this something I should be worried about? Any input would be greatly appreciated.

 

[Moon Fire]

Everyone is different. Those without SA also have hard times keeping good friends. Your boyfriend is lucky to have some really cool trusting people to hang out with. Not everyone has that. IMO he won't think you're a loser. Atleast you have got some friends.

 

[Lisa]

Look, lots of people's social life is like yours. It's pretty normal.

 

[Just Lurking]

I'm worried he'll think I'm a loser and be completely turned off by me when he realises how bad my social life is. And I'm also worried that I won't be able to do a good job fitting in with his friends, because of my SA. And they are like a second family to him, so I feel like I have to.

What do you guys think, is this something I should be worried about? Any input would be greatly appreciated.

If he's the one for you, none of this should matter.

 

[soundofsilence]

Thanks for replying guys! I realize it was a long thread to read. I guess I'm worrying a little too much about this. It's just, this is my first relationship and I really, really like this guy. I want it to work so badly. But you guys helped me feel better about this. So thank you.