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I am so sad. :cry

I just received news that my mom is not doing well on her Alzheimer's medication.

I know I've almost totally lost her emotionally; now I fear I am going to lose her physically.

I miss her wonderful personality so much.

I was lucky to have had such a cool mom for 80 years, though.

I just want to cry and cry and cry; I have already binged today. It helped a little.

Star :cry
 

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Star I am so sorry that you're going through this........
I pray to God I live to be at least 80, where most of this is in acceptable health, that means all the more time I get to watch my daughter;-). As a mother yourself.....What you want most, is to watch your child grow, see that they have a family of their own, that your child is happy;-D to see your grand kids........You're (oops, glad I reread, I wrote NOT in there!!!) happily married;-D your Mom got to see your daughter;-) in that manner, she's a very lucky women, and probably quite content.
While I don't know your Mom's personality............I'm thinking at this point in her life............You know what she would want.......Respect, dignity;-)
 

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As I sit here 2 feet from my mom, I sure don't want to think about any of that stuff. It was bad enough when she almost died from too much CO2 in her blood. She has very bad lungs from tooooo many cigs. Not smoking now, but damage is done.
 

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It's never easy I guess to lose your mother. I remember my mother telling me that my grandfather took it hard when his mother (my great-grandmother) died, even though he was in his 60's and she was in her 80's. My mother never has talked to me about how she felt about losing her mother when she was 18 (although she did say it has something to do with why she never married). And reading this makes me think about what could have been in my own life. When I was 4, my mother got hit by a car, and when I was 13, she almost died because she got an infection after she had surgery. It was hard enough being a teenager *with* a mother. Who knows what would have happened if I had to go through it *without* one.

The one positive you can take with you is that you still have the memories of how your mother was before she got Alzheimers, and it sounds like your children got to meet her. I hope that your whole family comes together to spend time with her before she dies.
 

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Thank you, Dear SA friends.

...your words mean more than you could ever know.

Love,
Star
 

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Star wrote:

I was lucky to have had such a cool mom for 80 years, though.
Hold onto that thought, dear. It's more than a lot of people get.

Love,
Ms Deer
 

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Ms Deer said:
Star wrote:

I was lucky to have had such a cool mom for 80 years, though.
Hold onto that thought, dear. It's more than a lot of people get.

Love,
Ms Deer
Thank you, Ms. Deer...actually I guess it would be 51 years--my whole life. She got 80 good years. You are totally right, I know, some children don't get their moms for very long at all. :(

BTW doesn't it just seem like some people are so strong-willed and such strong personalities, that you just think they will never pass away?! Well, that is how mom is... :sigh

"All things must pass; all things must pass away..." George Harrison
 

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The dr says that mom is in the beginning stges of Alzheimer's Disease.

I don't know about that.

In my research, thus far, I have found that symptoms of AD may not appear for 30-50 years!

I honestly believe she has had AD a lot longer. We always (as is typical with the denial of diseases) covered for her when she would forget things like keys, where she was going, what she was going to do next.

Of course, way back then, not much was known about AD at all. Then again, not all that much is known today. The meds are mostly experimental, I am sad to say, and of course, don't work for everyone.

I must still be in the Denial Stage myself. :stu

Star
 
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