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Anyone have trouble with this? The best example I can give is like when watching television with other people in the room, and have fear of making eye contact with the edge of your vision. I find it the worst in movie theaters, where everyone is sitting in a perfect line. I usually have to focus on something else for a few seconds to relieve the anxiety.
 

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I have the same problem. It use to make school a nightmare for me especially if I was sitting next to a cute girl and didn't wanna seem like a creep. Its not as much of a problem for me as it use to be though.
 

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In college it was especially bad. I tended to look down and act as if I was reading something, or focus on taking notes. Lecture classes weren't too bad, but those classes where they make everyone sit in a circle for the intimate class feel always sucked. I always went for end seats, that way I had at least one direction where no one is in my field of vision.
 

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Peripheral vision is one of my SA crutches as well, sometimes SA makes me not follow it instinctively or others times I'm very much oblivious to it & notice things far too late if at all.

I think this can be a major SA issue for some of us, not being able to naturally tap into the more subtle forms of communication. For example, as a result of the above I miss some body language cues
 

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Lol I thought i was the only one... omg it's a nightmare... the worst part here is that i make people feel un-comfortable who sits near me because I see them in the peripheral vision and then they become nervous because of me because it looks like i stare at them when i try not to... it's so horrible and a hell....

But i found a solution when you're standing with a lot of people. If you look down, your peripheral vision will be wider and it will seem that you look at other people, will make them feel un-comfortable.. now lift up your head normally, it will become sooooooo much better!! u won't have this problem anymore while standing... lift up ur head to normal level i mean.
 

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in my experience its uncomfortable yes, but its somethign you can overcome just by practice it. When you walk on the streets, sit in the train/bus/whatever. Try looking people in the eyes. Ofc choose people that looks friendly and not buffed tattooed Guys :)
 

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Hate it when it happens in a classroom. Especially if a girl is adjacent to me, Id make her so uncomfortable. Lol
 

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Please help, that problem drives me crazy, i can't handle it anymore, today i sat with my brother and sister, then i bowed my head down to avoid looking at them with my peripheral vision.. please...... i need help !!!!! it happens when i sit on the bus, train or sit in a place full of people!!! !!!! what should i do?? and practicing by looking at stranger's eyes is very rude.. i can't do it to somebody.. he will feel un-comfortable from me and i don't want to do it to any one. i found a cure when standing, it's looking straight 90 degrees.. i mean not looking down.. but when sitting!! anything????!!!!
 
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