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Anyone have this problem? I have to admit I’ve become somewhat of a shopaholic lately. I don’t know what it is but when I buy a nice bag or new shoes I get some kind of a high. My confidence and self-esteem goes up with those purchases but it only lasts so long until I need another hit. I will turn to shopping when I’m a extremely depressed state. I’ll blow 700 on a random bag just to make myself feel better and for the most part I do. I equate my happiness to things because I don’t have any real relationships in my life. It’s so impulsive I don’t really think about if I really want it nor need it. Luckily I don’t have a credit card so I’m not drowning in debt. I won’t just buy expensive things; I’ll buy useless crap that I don’t need just to have it. For me shopping fills a void in my life or just sometimes out of sheer boredom. Having “things” makes me feel more secure and it’s a nice feeling for a while until I crash and feel an immense amount of guilt :|. It's like I Shop, Therefore I Am.
 

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you'd better check into rehab lol. I actually think what you are describing is very common and is well documented. Just google excessive shopping and im sure you can find information about your condition. In a time like this it may be wise to turn to religon(if thats your thang) or meditation or whatever you can do to obtain that same high without shopping.
 

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Oooh shopaholic , nah jk their are therapies available to you to combat this problem.

It seems you're already clued up on why you impulse buy and your motives behind it yanno to fill that "void" so to speak.

Their are a range of therapies available to you like group therapy , individual counselling n yadda yadda yanno stuff that tackles the underlying issues n whatnot.

See your local GP/Doctor he should be able to refer you to someone that specialises in combating your situation.
 

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Yesss you have read my mind. But I start to get anxious and guilty when I get to the check out and watch the number creep up and up.
 

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when i was young i'd usually spend most of my money on CDs. it was okay though since i didn't have to save up since school and important adult responsibilities seemed so far away. when i got a job at age 17 i initially thought "well this would be a good time to start saving a chunk of it for when i'm done high school", which i completely forgot about after i got that first $150 check and cashed it. for a while every few weeks i'd go and in one visit to a my favourite music stores i'd spend $80-100 on CDs and vinyl. this was a regular occurrence and seemed fine to me since i didn't have to pay for anything else and it was the only thing that brought me a bit of joy. i miss that immensely now, actually, and i have to avoid going into my favourite stores since i end up going crazy over all the stuff i want to get and either end up buying some of it or feel incredibly sad that i have to walk out empty handed.


anyway, i'm still really bad with managing money. BUT i am getting better. i now make lists of items i have to purchase, and the amount, to see an overview of how many necessities i have to get in the next month to make sure i keep enough and chose the item i pay for in order of importance.
i always make sure i have enough for my meds for the month, my internet, cell. then the rest is divided into other misc. categories.
i still run out of money before i even get the next paycheck two weeks later. :/ the only thing i am impulsive about buying and don't think twice over is concert tickets (unless it's extremely expensive). and i always make sure i have money for alcohol when i go out. :/ :/


OH, and be very careful with credit cards. when i first got my visa, my intention was to only use it when i needed to make an online purchase.. well that failed miserably. i'd keep it with me (BIG mistake) when i went out, and if i ran out of money on my debit i'd just take out cash with my visa, or if i wanted an item i'd just say "well next paycheck i'll transfer the cost directly to my visa", but those items added up so much that at the end of the month i wouldn't have enough to put into my visa. and within six months i was over my limit, which was just $1000, but still. so stupid. i've only paid off 10% now, since i have to actually use it for necessary items.


so yea i'm definitely a **** up with money. hopefully i'll learn before i move out.
you should look into addressing those problems some how. either start managing every dollar you make and think about it realistically what you should save it for, or find other "distraction methods" that can keep your mind off your urges or give you a similar rush (e.g. exercising), or actually go to a therapist if it's so severe that you have no control. good luck!
 

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Nope.

Aside from a lot of SA stress and anger (no quality for money etc) shopping doesn't do anything to me. So I avoid it as much as possible.
More the contrary: The less I need, the more independent and superior to others I feel!
 

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Yes, I feel the same way. But lately material things have been putting me off. I realize I buy random things just for the sake of it...thinking it will make up up for my lack of social skills. Its a double edged sword however, because I feel like what ever I have draws attention to me...which makes me feel more uncomfortable. Its like a never ending loop
 

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I am somewhat similar to EremitaGermanus, in that shopping is something I do quite reluctantly. I feel as if the more I own, the more thinly I have to spread myself around it, if you understand what I mean.

I have found that selling something on eBay or Amazon, or even giving it away, gives you just as much of a "rush" as buying something would. Once or twice a year I go through all of my clothes, my books, etc., fill a box with everything I really do not want anymore, and take it to Oxfam, and afterwards I feel like I've gone on an amazing spending spree!

Perhaps you could try putting something on eBay every time you feel tempted to buy something, and see whether it gives you a similar rush.

I wish you the very best in beating this problem.
 

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Spending money doesn't make me happy. That might explain why I still have money left. In fact, I feel bad about spending anything.
 

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I recently watched that movie, Confessions of a Shopaholic. It was good.

Personally I don't get any type of high from my purchases unless what I buy is extremely cheap. If I feel as though I'm being thrifty then I do feel happy about it.
 

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I will turn to shopping when I'm a extremely depressed state. I'll blow 700 on a random bag just to make myself feel better
So do I, but I thought randomly blowing $150 or so was bad...$700 is half my rent for the month!
 

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Spending money does the opposite for me, I feel like I should be saving or something. I usually feel really guilty/kind of sick if I drop a lot of money on something. And when I say a lot, I mean like a 100.
 

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Anyone have this problem? I have to admit I've become somewhat of a shopaholic lately. I don't know what it is but when I buy a nice bag or new shoes I get some kind of a high. My confidence and self-esteem goes up with those purchases but it only lasts so long until I need another hit. I will turn to shopping when I'm a extremely depressed state. I'll blow 700 on a random bag just to make myself feel better and for the most part I do. I equate my happiness to things because I don't have any real relationships in my life. It's so impulsive I don't really think about if I really want it nor need it. Luckily I don't have a credit card so I'm not drowning in debt. I won't just buy expensive things; I'll buy useless crap that I don't need just to have it. For me shopping fills a void in my life or just sometimes out of sheer boredom. Having "things" makes me feel more secure and it's a nice feeling for a while until I crash and feel an immense amount of guilt :|. It's like I Shop, Therefore I Am.
700, if in US $, seems like an awful lot for a bag. I think it is normal to feel good after buying new things. If you think that you are overdoing it, you could keep the receipt for the sale, wait till the novelty of the item wears off and then return it:D This could be a temporary solution till you find healthier ways to stay happy.

So do I, but I thought randomly blowing $150 or so was bad...$700 is half my rent for the month!
About 2 months' rent for me.
 

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About 2 months' rent for me.
I live in Toronto, right in the city-- and that is cheap for a decent place here, imo, lol. And by decent I mean nice neighbours, a good school for my son and no vermin! lol
 

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I'm actually quite frugal and even try to prevent others from spending money on things they don't really need. But, lately, I've impulsively purchased things I really don't need or care for that much. I'm sure much of it has to do with boredom. Plus, shopping is so easy to do alone when I want to get out of the house. And it's hard to just window shop because I always end up finding a deal I can't pass up! I don't want to end up with buyer's remorse! But, I do end up returning items when I realize later that it's wasn't something I really needed or wanted to begin with.
 

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Well, if I had the money right now, I'd just buy tea until I was broke again. Whenever I have money, I feel like it's my duty to spend it. I'm afraid that one day I'll get ran over by a bus with 500 bucks in my pocket and a substantial savings account. How much would that suck?
 

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I have my moments where I need to have everything I think I 'need' when really it's a want. It's usually clothing and footwear and since I don't go out frequently it ends up gathering dust in my wardrobe.

It's become a pretty serious addiction, I don't need 5 g-star jackets FFS! But the main issue is alot of it is online which means I'm not venturing out and trying things on (due to excessive anxiety). Plus I over analyze every prospective purchase to the nth degree until I don't even know why I bought the things for in the first place.
 

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I was visiting my cousins last week and I'd noticed that one of their house doors they don't lock at all. They just close their garage and exepct nothing will happen - and I asked my cousin "why don't you lock your door inside the garage?"
he's like, "oh we do at night - but not in the daytime. we value people more than things"

and I thought to myself "jeez - how stupid is this guy? You have to have some attachment to things! I mean even if it's just family photos and videos. It mkes no sense to me how they say they value people, and yet their house is filled with stuff. Hello - make up your mind already.
 

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I was visiting my cousins last week and I'd noticed that one of their house doors they don't lock at all. They just close their garage and exepct nothing will happen - and I asked my cousin "why don't you lock your door inside the garage?"
he's like, "oh we do at night - but not in the daytime. we value people more than things"

and I thought to myself "jeez - how stupid is this guy? You have to have some attachment to things! I mean even if it's just family photos and videos. It mkes no sense to me how they say they value people, and yet their house is filled with stuff. Hello - make up your mind already.
That is an interesting point. I agree to an extent. It seems more materialistic to not care about the things you own (view them as replacable consumables) than to take care of them, to choose well when shopping and to maintain things.
 
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