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When my friends go through tough times... they never talk to me about it. Even this girl that called me a 'Best Friend'.

She keeps telling me she's going through a tough time so i'm like, what is it? What happened? But she won't tell me... It says it all when even your friends dont wanna tell you their personal sh**.

Also My other friend that calls me a 'Best Friend' wont tell me how he's in debt....

But the ironic thing is I'm complaining about this but I NEVER tell my friends the truth about me. none of them know about how serious my depression is...

No-one truly knows me, and I don't truly know anyone:um
 

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Maybe she's not comfortable sharing it with a man, sometimes you really don't want male input on a problem.
She's right, just give your friends some space. Just let your friends know that you will always be there to listen. Don't forcefully intervene because your friends will feel like their personal space has been invaded. Only intervene if its a life threatening situation.
 

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I know my friends arent shallow to judge on gender. But it's like that all the time. anytime one of them is depressed they never tork to me about it
 

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u know what's funny, sometimes my friends will say they have a bad day or something bad happened to them but won't tell me...and i won't push them...i used to push them to tell me and they would refuse...but now, I never push them and instead i try to give them advice or comfort them when they are feeling bad and the funny thing is, after i start comforting or giving advice, they let up and start pouring their heart out to me! lol i guess by being a good friend to them, just being there for them, they felt more comfortable and safe to reveal their personal information with me so that i could better help them/advise them. maybe try that next time so they will let their guard down around u :) just be careful and not blab their info to anyone! sometimes it's tempting if it's juicy news but u gotta respect ur friend's private life and not share their information with anyone otherwise they will not trust u anymore! hope this helps
 

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I have a friend who is very similar. She always refers to having ''issues'', and it seems like I'm the only one who doesn't know all the facts. Then when I show concern and try to get her to open up, she either ignores me, or loses her cool and stops talking to me. Thing is though, I've told her my secrets because I trust her, but she clearly doesn't feel the same way.

And the biggest problem of all, she says these ''issues'' make her want to be alone. Yet once again, it's very clear that I'm being kept out of the loop, because she in fact does like to socialise with people (EXCEPT FOR ME).

So hurtful when you care for someone, but they treat you like you don't even matter.
 
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