[Jaan Pehechaan Ho]

I like compare myself to an animal that was raised in the zoo and later put into the wild. I can't adapt to the environment, so I'm going die a lonely lion...

 

[Meee]

Seems it's difficult even for normal people to make friends as they get older. Most seem to stick with the same people they already know. Maybe i'm wrong though.

But yeah my social skills suck and i while i hope i can change them eventually it doesn't seem very likely. I feel a lot less anxiety these days but socialising is still almost impossible.

Kinda sucks really :\

 

[pita]

I feel that way. My social skills are the worst when I'm feeling anxious, but even when I am relaxed I don't know how to behave or speak properly. I think my social anxiety actually developed because of my terrible social skills.

 

[Cecile]

Wow, three years later and I can say you just described me.

 

[Badmonkey]

I like compare myself to an animal that was raised in the zoo and later put into the wild. I can't adapt to the environment, so I'm going die a lonely lion...

If you overcome SA but still unable to adapt to the environment then you didn't truly overcome SA.

Granted, there will be a long adapting period, but it's no different than relocating to a new country and learning a new language and adapting to their culture.
If you're anxiety free, and have the will power, you can do it.

 

[wxolue]

Want to know a secret? There's no secret. There isn't some long complicated system of social interaction that is ingrained in your memory from habitual practice. You can't miss out on learning how to develop social skills unless you quite literally have never experienced social interaction (including watching it on a tv show). This pretty much means growing up with wolves. It's a born with it or not born with it kind of deal. Before you assume you weren't born with it, a deficiency in social skills is called aspergers syndrome, a form of autism.

An endemic trait of social anxiety is the irrational assumption that you are somehow socially inept. If you do overcome SA, you will have confidence in your social skills to the point where your question would never even cross your mind, and would never come up through experience.

 

[7th.Streeter]

I think the fact we can all hold on a conversation here shows we have social skills IMO its when anxiety kicks in your mind goes blank. I hold on great convos with my brothers, my mom and dad, and even other pll only if they start the vconvo first.... Id be able to do the same with others if anxiety didnt make me go blank. I think for us its just a matter of staying calm in social situations.

 

[dk321]

I've never really had too much of a problem for conversations except when I have
to speak to a crowd, then I get really anxious and after that I don't feel like talking to anyone

 

[kpx0]

Seems it's difficult even for normal people to make friends as they get older. Most seem to stick with the same people they already know. Maybe i'm wrong though.

Don't know how old you are, but you're right. Lots of surveys have showed that as well. People do mainly make new friends when they're under 30.

 

[Ponceau 4R]

why did he get banned?