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Hey guys,im with a embarassing problem here.
I am 17 and im facing a problem that i only thought i would at 50 or something like that.
I am with my girlfriend for 8 months now and never had this problem,and i dont see why its starting now.
One day we were starting to have sex and my penis didnt get hard enough. She got really mad at first and after a while she started mocking me about it (not in a mean way,we just like mocking each other) but i think it really got inside my mind and is blocking me right now.
The last time i was with her we had sex one time,and the next time i couldnt do it again. She got really mad again,but didnt want to discuss about it.
After that i've tried masturbating and watching porn,i was able to have a erection,but it took a while.

You guys have any advice for me? This is getting REALLY frustrating.
Thanks for your help and sorry if my english confused you guys,english isnt my native language.
 

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She got really mad at first and after a while she started mocking me about it (not in a mean way,we just like mocking each other) but i think it really got inside my mind and is blocking me right now.
This, right here, is the problem.

If you can ever get an erection - from masturbation etc. - then there's probably nothing wrong with the plumbing down there. It's psychological, rooted in performance anxiety, which is pretty understandable among folks who have issues with anxiety in general. But your girlfriend made it worse by mocking you about it.

It's time to talk to her and be open about what this is and the fact that it's bothering you. If you can't feel comfortable having that conversation with her, it might be time to look for a more supportive girlfriend.
 

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Nothing to do with porn or masturbating it's likely Medication or something else your consuming.



My meds actually give me the opposite problem It's hard enough to crush a diamond with and doesnt go away for hours. :mum
 

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Yeah your gf shouldn't be making fun of you. It seems women get more of a "pass" then men when "bashing' or putting down the opposite sex (GENERALLY). Anyway let her know it does effect you. It would effect most men. Even if they didn't have ED but couldn't get really hard its embarrassing. Just like if a girl couldn't reproduce or get an orgasm its an issue and shouldn't be made fun of as far as partners go. I understand banter but its good to let the other person know you are effected by this and you would appreciate understanding, empathy and most of all respect. The more she dis-respects you the lower your confidence thus feeding into the problem. I know I don't have ED but I know I've had problems "getting it up" because of anxiety and what not. Of course there are other factors, maybe I wasn't really physically turned on by the girl themselves. It happens for me. There are some girls that really turn me on and other well, doesn't do it for me or it would take more work:)

Best of luck and hope you find a solution. It seems so out of the blue and right away if you were implying that its never happened before.
 

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I'd imagine if a girl gave me a hard time about getting hard would give me anxiety performance.

Lots of jerking off doesn't cause erectile disfunction. I know what i'm talking about...
It doesn't cause ED but it can make it difficult to get an erection.
 

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I think you should watch these man...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?&v=HQHLF5BL9e8
http://www.doctoroz.com/videos/can-porn-cause-erectile-dysfunction-pt-1

also check out this website...

http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/

I'm speaking from experience here when I say it's almost certainly down to porn use. You're 17 so it's not going to be anything physical. You even said it yourself, when you changed one variable (i.e. porn) you were able to get an erection. It's basically down to messed up brain chemistry, all is explained in the vids.
 

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This, right here, is the problem.

If you can ever get an erection - from masturbation etc. - then there's probably nothing wrong with the plumbing down there. It's psychological, rooted in performance anxiety, which is pretty understandable among folks who have issues with anxiety in general. But your girlfriend made it worse by mocking you about it.

It's time to talk to her and be open about what this is and the fact that it's bothering you. If you can't feel comfortable having that conversation with her, it might be time to look for a more supportive girlfriend.
The first thing that goes through my mind is how dare she, and if you can't have the conversation with her, or she can't be supportive, it may well be time to move forward.
 
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