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As stated I think my SA stems from just not knowing what to say at times. There are so many instances where I can recall thinking to myself "What do I say here? next? or thereafter?" I am constantly at a loss for words in many social situations. When I know a subject well I can talk for ages. But doing that whole spontaneous talking/conversing thing is something I don't know very well. And of course this has taken it's toll on my social and romantic life. So I would't say I have SA or fear social situations as much as I just don't know how interact and engage in conversations. And this is all because I don't know what to say...
 

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Me too but my bigger problem is telling people my honest thoughts and people generally don't appreciate that. So in an attempt to try to be more tactful, sometimes I overthink things and end up saying nothing at all because of it and then appear awkward because of it.
 

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Right, of course I've been there too. Honesty and bluntness are something I do a bit too often. It's so difficult keeping all your social cues "in check" WHILE at the very same time trying to act normal...sort of a false dichotomy. I envy the ones that can be spontaneous and funny while being accepted socially amongst the group.
 

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I think a lot of my SA got worse because of this, not knowing what to say, not knowing how to have a lengthy conversation, but instead keeping things as short and simple as possible.
 
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