Social Anxiety Support Forum banner
1 - 2 of 2 Posts

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,268 Posts
I can appreciate where you're coming from. I was in that situation years ago (when I was 17 approaching 18), after having been with my first serious boyfriend for about a year and a half. He finished the relationship - technically. But we both found it very hard to totally let go of each other - even though deep down we both knew we weren't right for each other and that our relationship hadn't been working in some time. There were still things we missed from being with each other - including the physical aspect of our relationship - and we both found this very hard to deal with at the time.

Having learnt what I did from the experience however (which was basically that all this slowed us down from getting over each other and moving on with our lives as opposed to really helping the situation), my suggestion would be to have a total break from seeing each other for a while (maybe for something along the lines of couple weeks or maybe even a month) to help give yourself a clearer perspective on things and use that time to consider whether or not you still want to spend time with her for the right reasons - by considering the reasons why you split and what it is exactly you're missing. You might well find that by the end of the time, you realise you genuinely want to give things a second chance. Although then again, you might feel totally differently by the end of the break and realise that you are happier seeing other people. Often though, necessary time apart from someone is the only way to realise something like that for sure.

I hope that helps, and sorry to hear about the situation.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,268 Posts
thank you black widow, you dont know how good it feels to know someone else has gone through the same thing. its just hard to stay away when she wants to see me (i have trouble saying no) i know that ill be fine in the end and what ever happens happens
No probs at all ;-)

Good luck with everything. Hope the situation soon improves for you.
 
1 - 2 of 2 Posts
This is an older thread, you may not receive a response, and could be reviving an old thread. Please consider creating a new thread.
Top