There are a lot of people who love physical exercise. Have you thought about joining some forums, sharing tips and learning new ways of doing things? When we strive to become better at things, it gives us a sense of pride in ourselves and can often boost our confidence too.I would say it's pretty severe. I don't have friends and never had any, not even as a kid. I've always been a reject. I actually haven't talked to people the same age as me since I was done with school. With the end of school, all opportunities for me to meet people have died, just like that. For the last 10 years I only had the same 2 relatives that I interact with on a regular basis.
I'm unemployed, I still live with my parents and only leave the house when I have to. I can't even bring out the trash because I don't want to bump into the neighbors. I only force myself to leave the house if I'm going to the doctor or seeing my therapist. And since I can't see therapist in person anymore because of covid, I stopped going outside on a weekly basis.
When I feel like it I play video games, although I can rarely motivate myself these days. Usually it's sitting at my desk killing time by browsing random websites or watching random youtube videos, nothing of which particularly interests or excites me or that I would remember the next day. Oftentimes I don't remember on which day I did what. My days kind of seem to blur together. I mostly just hide quietly in my room and only leave it to eat or for toilet breaks. I try to do what little I can to stay physically healthy at home like doing push-ups, dumb bells but that's about it.
It's a crying shame that some feel a Forum such as this isn't a safe place to post. It's important for people's growth amongst other things to feel welcome, valued and needed. We should strive to encourage and nurture this behaviour for the benefit of the Forum and its members.Probably it's fluctuated a little over the years? But I also have other undiagnosed issues. Those might be what fluctuated. It's hard to draw lines with so many symptoms. I avoid people for several reasons one of them is because I'm non-binary (many non-binary people avoid spending too much time around people who don't get it if they can.) There's a bunch of stuff I've done in the past that most here wouldn't do though (going clubbing and to parties etc,) even some stuff now (concerts.) I just have a weird symptom profile I think historically a lot of my anxiety was over hierarchy and expectations, doctors appointments, phone calls, anything that's new, but there was some in general social situations and then that got worse.
It's weird me being here really because even making YouTube videos lol. There are several things I've done/do that I know people here would never do yet they manage to do more important things that I can't do.
There's a lot I avoid talking about here, since I don't relate to maybe 80% of the most active posters and probably vice versa and this place isn't very safe. I know many other posters have left for this reason (some with severe anxiety and others with mild I mean mild people don't really need to stick around typically they have other stuff to do and people in their life they can talk to.)
I don't really feel anywhere is safe though to be fair. I mean it's not acceptable to be seen as weak, so I spend a lot of time whining here (more than most,) and I'm quite open about certain things as a result I look terrible and contemptible (because complaining is a sign of weakness, you're not supposed to care in the first place,) but there are topics I will often avoid bringing up.It's a crying shame that some feel a Forum such as this isn't a safe place to post. It's important for people's growth amongst other things to feel welcome, valued and needed. We should strive to encourage and nurture this behaviour for the benefit of the Forum and its members.
Echoing this. Just because you can more or less talk to strangers, it doesn't mean you're not dealing with lots of social anxiety in other areas. There's also the fact that when many people talk about severe social anxiety, they're usually throwing in other things like depression, lacking social skills, being eccentric, and other things which are not strictly social anxiety but make socializing extremely difficult.IOW, even if your SA is fundamentally fairly mild, it can end up being more substantial due to things that even most other people with SA don't have to deal with.
Yeah that's one of the reasons why I do it. It's one of the few aspects that I have complete control over just by watching what I eat and by how often I excercise. It's something I can do all by myself and there is no pressure from the outside. Right now it's keeping me from becoming overweight, although I do wish do build some muscle in the future. I think it would be really beneficial for my confidence. It's just hard to do without any equipment. I would like to join a gym but unfortunately that's out of the question at the moment.There are a lot of people who love physical exercise. Have you thought about joining some forums, sharing tips and learning new ways of doing things? When we strive to become better at things, it gives us a sense of pride in ourselves and can often boost our confidence too.
I think those things just come with the territory. If your anxiety is severe you're most likely lacking in social skills because you've been avoiding social situations for years. You also become depressed because we're a social species and we rely on the exchange with other people.Echoing this. Just because you can more or less talk to strangers, it doesn't mean you're not dealing with lots of social anxiety in other areas. There's also the fact that when many people talk about severe social anxiety, they're usually throwing in other things like depression, lacking social skills, being eccentric, and other things which are not strictly social anxiety but make socializing extremely difficult.
I pretty much will agree with what the majority of people on here said.. it's severe enough that kept me from having a normal life, and being to live a functional /productive life.. i had to drop out of school, i had to quit several jobs, etc, i didn't have the typical life that most of the kids i grew up with had, i avoided many things, and i still do.. it's disabling for me.. i feel like i can't be myself around people, im always afraid i am going to be judged that if i do something people will say something negative, it's a terrible way to live.It's severe enough to have kept me from developing normally, like having an independent job, going to university or having friends or a girlfriend. I'm very afraid of situations where I might be judged negatively or humiliated, and feel I am, most times for no good reason; that makes me unintentionally externalize my anxiety, which people then actually notice, closing the circle. I don't go out much, doing so takes it out of me, and takes a lot of mental/emotional preparation. Too many people is horrible, yet one-on-one can be worse. I avoid talking to people who are friendly to me because I don't want them to realize what a manchild weirdo I am. After interactions I scrutinize them and find all the things I did (or perceive I did) wrong. Those mistakes are burned into my brain and come back randomly and I find myself saying things out loud like "You idiot" or "Poor thing, he's got issues", all the way to "You should shoot yourself in the face". Any situation where I'm the center of attention is pretty much Hell. I used to have panic attacks (or close enough) when out of my comfort zone, which is pretty much anywhere outside my house, although they haven't happened to me in a while now.
I've gotten better lately, so maybe I can't call it "extreme" now. Then again, I haven't really put myself out there in a long time. I should also say SA is most likely not my only mental health problem.
It is. Unless I'm having one of those magical days where everything works out perfect, inhibition takes over and I become a bumbling idiot. And it's painful.i feel like i can't be myself around people, im always afraid i am going to be judged that if i do something people will say something negative, it's a terrible way to live.
It's all we can do. You're so right about the pandemic. I've experienced a bunch of bursts of motivation since it started, but couldn't find activities to put them to use. Timing sucks.im trying to slowly overcome and get better at it, by practice skills and putting myself out there (although its a bit hard during the pandemic) and i try to hope for the best..