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I hate going to the doctors at the best of times. I don't think I've ever gone by myself I've had a relative or friend with me. I have to go to the doctors tomorrow to discuss my eating disorder and figure out how to get help. I'm freaking out! I'm nervous about talking to a perfect stranger about an actual illness but when it's a self inflicted one. I'm terrified. What do I say? Do I say I think I have an eating disorder or I make myself sick I don't know how to put it I hate that it's a part of me it makes me hate myself. How in the world can I explain. Should I say I think I have an eating disorder... I have a problem dealing with things? and wanted to see if I could get some help, or get referred for some help...? And what am I supposed to do when I check in... what am I meant to say I can't remember. I'm really stressing out. And everythings so ****ed I don't feel that motivated.
 

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What type of doctor are you seeing in regards to the eating disorder? I am guessing a psychologist? If so is it someone who specializes in eating disorders? Regardless they are trained to handle and help people with debilitating mental conditions. And like they say half the battle is acknowledging the problem. Which I commend you for! Secondly if you go to a doctor and they don't seem to respond like you would like, or seem to lack bedside matter don't fret on firing them and trying another. Sometimes it takes awhile to find the perfect fit.

As far as what to say, I would be honest and upfront. Tell them you understand that you have a problem and your seeking out help for it. And then let them lead the conversation from there. Its their job to help identify why the problem is manifesting and work on steps to correct it.

Good luck!
 

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Thanks so much for replying. It's actually just my regular doctor's surgery. I've asked and looked around I'm not sure if it's different in England but I think you have to get referred to a specialist by a normal doctor. To see what options there are I think. I said to my sister I'm just gonna ask if I can get referred (I don't know how to put that either) and she said that's good because otherwise they'll just help you to help yourself. That's why I'm scared though because they might just not get it and it feels really vulnerable. My anxiety's got so bad at the moment and it's all related and my personal life seems to keep ****ing itself over I just want it to be ok. So I'm distracted instead of thinking about me I guess. But my friend said if I'm feeling out of control then I should deffinately look for help now.
 

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Many health insurance plans here need referrals also, mine doesn't so I wasn't being considerate of the other possibilities.

In any event your friends right if you feel you have a problem, seek help. I know eating disorders can be very dangerous.
 

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Because the way I see it is deal with it the way I do until things get better in my life then I'll feel better. I don't know what I'm gonna say. And I'm nervous about just walking into the reception.
 

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As Aleforge has said, be as honest and open with the doctor as you can. You have to remember that they have heard just about every situation imaginable, and it is their job to help you. I'm sure they will be caring and understanding, and, if necessary, they may well refer you to a specialist. Just remember that all of these people are there to help you.

I myself had to go to the doctor a few years back about something which could have turned out to be life-threatening, but fortunately turned out to be a much lesser problem. I took so long to build up the courage to go to a doctor (stupid, as if it had turned out to be more serious, I was putting my life in danger), as I felt embarrassed, and scared of talking with a stranger, but it all turned out fine. The doctor was very caring and helpful, and the specialist I was referred to was also the same.

Try not to keep anything back from the doctor as they need to know as much as possible in order to give you the correct help you need. They aren't going to judge you or be horrible to you (though if they do they are being negligent in their job, and should be reported for it), and i'm sure they'll give you the help you need.

Good luck tomorrow, Delicate :)
 

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As Aleforge has said, be as honest and open with the doctor as you can. You have to remember that they have heard just about every situation imaginable, and it is their job to help you. I'm sure they will be caring and understanding, and, if necessary, they may well refer you to a specialist. Just remember that all of these people are there to help you.

I myself had to go to the doctor a few years back about something which could have turned out to be life-threatening, but fortunately turned out to be a much lesser problem. I took so long to build up the courage to go to a doctor (stupid, as if it had turned out to be more serious, I was putting my life in danger), as I felt embarrassed, and scared of talking with a stranger, but it all turned out fine. The doctor was very caring and helpful, and the specialist I was referred to was also the same.

Try not to keep anything back from the doctor as they need to know as much as possible in order to give you the correct help you need. They aren't going to judge you or be horrible to you (though if they do they are being negligent in their job, and should be reported for it), and i'm sure they'll give you the help you need.

Good luck tomorrow, Delicate :)
Ditto. I put off going to the doctor for years and put my life in serious risk. I knew something was wrong and ignored it until I couldn't any longer. I'm fine sharing my story but I won't because it tends to make people uncomfortable. Anyway I look back and I kick myself for having waited so long. Please do not put your health at risk any longer. Doctors are there to help you and will not judge you.

Best of luck and congrats on taking this first step :)
 

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What do I say? Do I say I think I have an eating disorder or I make myself sick I don't know how to put it I hate that it's a part of me it makes me hate myself. How in the world can I explain. Should I say I think I have an eating disorder... I have a problem dealing with things? and wanted to see if I could get some help, or get referred for some help...? And what am I supposed to do when I check in... what am I meant to say I can't remember. I'm really stressing out. And everythings so ****ed I don't feel that motivated.
What did you say when you made the appointment?

As for checking in, just going to the desk and telling the receptionist that you're there is really all you need to do.

Once you're with the doctor, your plan to tell the doctor that you think you have an eating disorder and you wanted to get some help or get referred for some help sounds really good to me. There's no other way to say it. Try not to worry about it anymore. It'll be over before you know it.

Congrats on taking this major step! :clap
 

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I hate going to the doctors at the best of times. I don't think I've ever gone by myself I've had a relative or friend with me. I have to go to the doctors tomorrow to discuss my eating disorder and figure out how to get help. I'm freaking out! I'm nervous about talking to a perfect stranger about an actual illness but when it's a self inflicted one. I'm terrified.
Your illness is not self-inflicted, and you shouldn't think of it that way. If you have an eating disorder then you have a genuine illness, and it's no more self-inflicted than any other illness.

What do I say? Do I say I think I have an eating disorder or I make myself sick I don't know how to put it I hate that it's a part of me it makes me hate myself. How in the world can I explain. Should I say I think I have an eating disorder... I have a problem dealing with things? and wanted to see if I could get some help, or get referred for some help...? And what am I supposed to do when I check in... what am I meant to say I can't remember. I'm really stressing out. And everythings so ****ed I don't feel that motivated.
As with any other illness, give your doctor a full and honest description of the symptoms, including any situations that you know cause them to be worse. He or she will do the rest. That's their job. You've already taken the hardest step in making the decision to seek help. Well done on that.
 

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Thanks for all your support. I just feel extremely down I wish a certain person would pick me up again but then it's as if I'm relying on him. I just miss him so badly. It's like everything goes wrong and gets bad all at the same time. I told him that and started welling up and he got upset but what now? All I want is for things to be ok, some stability. I hate myself for how things are going.

I've had one too many drinks... and I was planning on planning what to say tomorrow... maybe I'll still bail at the last minute!!! I don't know what I'll say. I feel like if i don't get sick for a few days then why do I think I have a problem???

OK I'll try now...

What do I have to tell them...
I think I have an eating disorder, I've had problems with anxiety... it seems like I feel sick most of the time. I used to get sick most days because I felt too stressed out. Then sometimes I'd make myself sick... it was on purpose but I didn't really think about it. It's hard to deal with emotions and when it gets too much I need to get it out of me. I think I have a problem and I'd like to find other ways to deal with things that aren't going to hurt me.... But I don't know if there's anything you can do...?

Yeah I've taken a step to get help but after about three years. And because my boyfriend broke up with me... sort of... he said he doesn't want to completely break up with me (wtf) I miss him so much it kills it's because I tried to tell him about this and couldn't I'm still trying he said he wants to clear the air step by step. I told him I need to deal with something at the moment. And I'm stressing because I haven't heard from

I feel like if I eat enough and don't throw up then I'm fine... what's my problem exactly? But I know it's how I deal with things. Maybe I'm getting an alcohol problem as a replacement **** that because I enjoy a good drink. I do feel crappy because I want to get checked etc my heart feels racy sometimes and I get chest pains and I think that's bad.

Smalltowngirl I freaked out before I called to make the appointment. I called my friend frist and asked what I'd have to say. She said if they ask anything just say it's personal. they didn't ask though I just said I'd like to make an appointment this week... and they only had one opening.
 

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What do I have to tell them...
I think I have an eating disorder, I've had problems with anxiety... it seems like I feel sick most of the time. I used to get sick most days because I felt too stressed out. Then sometimes I'd make myself sick... it was on purpose but I didn't really think about it. It's hard to deal with emotions and when it gets too much I need to get it out of me. I think I have a problem and I'd like to find other ways to deal with things that aren't going to hurt me.... But I don't know if there's anything you can do...?
This sounds like exactly the sort of thing you should tell them.
 

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thanks it went ok I think. I don't feel much of anything though. I managed to get something out and started crying a little bit but he was nice. I think I made him uncomfortable lol... I'm getting a referal though and got some anti depressants. Which I'm not thrilled about but... see what happens.
 
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