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I have never used profanity in public, or around others. The only time is curse is when I am alone or in my head. :sus

I feel like a kid feeling genuinely scared of swearing around others. Lots of people have asked me "how come you never cuss?", and I always tell them it's just the way I was raised. Well that's fine and all but for a 20+ year old, people think it's just plain odd.

What do you think is cursing a part of having a social life, or is it something to avoid?
 

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I think you're reading too much into the whole cursing thing. It's just something that some people do and some people don't. You happen to belong in the don't category.
 

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I would have to agree with Dunky. I don't think anyone thinks you're just plain odd for not cursing. If anything, they're probably just jealous because you can go through life with out using all those nasty words :) I actually show more respect towards someone that doesn't use profanity all the time.
 

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I think you're reading too much into the whole cursing thing. It's just something that some people do and some people don't. You happen to belong in the don't category.
People have told me to my face "it's weird that you don't curse even a little." These are the same people, I like being around, so it bothered me a lot to hear them say it.

What I think is, it makes them feel uneasy or something. I really don't think, I'm reading into it though.
 

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Yeah, I swear regularly. Very often swearing can ease you into a social situation, that of course depends on who you're swearing in front of. Swearing is sometimes very useful as you can use it to express admiration and other positive emotions, not just negative ones.
 

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Yes I swear a lot sometimes. I want to stop doing it. I'd like to be more well mannered in general. Because of the way I was raised I never learned how to behave in certain situations and this makes my SA worse.
 

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I would have to agree with Dunky. I don't think anyone thinks you're just plain odd for not cursing. If anything, they're probably just jealous because you can go through life with out using all those nasty words :) I actually show more respect towards someone that doesn't use profanity all the time.
You make a good point, people that know me are more at ease, knowing I won't embarrass them around there parents, bosses, ect..

There's not much else though.

Yeah, I swear regularly. Very often swearing can ease you into a social situation, that of course depends on who you're swearing in front of. Swearing is sometimes very useful as you can use it to express admiration and other positive emotions, not just negative ones.
That's the same way I feel about it.
 

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I say "crap" alot - does that count as a swear word?

Oh, and I say "sh*t" sometimes but it's more under my breath and to myself like if I tripped over or something.

And "bloody damn" or "bloody hell" and various other variations of the word "bloody" and that's probably the worst word I'll say to express annoyance/anger.
 

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I swear like a sailor. I don't think those who don't are strange, though. Two of my closest friends never swear, it doesn't bother me. It seems a fairly shallow thing to judge people on.
 

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I don't use profanity in public, because I feel it shows a lack of breeding and good taste. However, I swear often and fluently at home :)
 

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I swear when I do something klutzy like slam my hand in the door. I also swear sometimes in my head. I hardly ever swear around other people though. The words just feel really unnatural coming from my mouth.
 

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I swear all the time, but only when around people I've gotten to know. I've actually been told that I'm good at it, I make it sound like just another word.
 

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I swear a decent amount, usually when I'm frustrated. I don't swear around children, the elderly, or people who otherwise might not appreciate bad language.

I don't think you need to worry about not swearing. I'm always impressed by people who don't curse.
 

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The worst I do in public is "dammit" or "sonofa*****".. and it's almost always quiet, sort of under my breath.

I'll occasionally let worse things go if I'm with acquaintances or family who I know don't mind it.

If I'm by myself, anything goes. There was a thread on here not so long ago about a study on how profanity helps one cope with pain (or something to that effect). It does :)

A quote from Mark Twain: "Under certain circumstances, profanity provides a relief denied even to prayer."
 

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under my breathe, quite a bit. online too. i don't say it in person as much but its just usual anxiety and not being able to fully express myself as i would.
 

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I curse like a sailor around my friends at work. We all do. And I swear to myself a lot. But would never in front of my family.
 

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Lots of people have asked me "how come you never cuss?", and I always tell them it's just the way I was raised. Well that's fine and all but for a 20+ year old, people think it's just plain odd.

What do you think is cursing a part of having a social life, or is it something to avoid?
People actually notice things like that? Seems like they just learned their first swear word and think they're the s**t now. Speak the way that's most natural for you; Most people don't keep track of the number of swear words a person uses in their dialogue - it sure never crosses my mind.

To answer your question, I think swear words are just random words that you can plug into conversation as you wish and are grouped into some arbitrary category known as "cursing" for who knows what reason. Whether you use them or not has nothing to do with having a social life. I swear when I feel it fits well with what I'm trying to say or if it helps to express an emotion, but I only do it when appropriate since linking sentences together with "filler words" just dumbs down conversation and limits the articulateness of a discussion.
 
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