If you know this is a problem, than why are you fighting your dad on it? He's your dad and he's recognized the same problem you're recognizing...you should say "You're right dad, and I need some help to overcome it."Because that's what I always do, and I wonder if it's a wise attitude to adopt considering I want to overcome SA.
For example, my father started to inquire why I don't talk to anyone (including to him and all my family members). I told him that, "I don't need anyone and I'm perfectly able to cope on my own."
Him: "Everyone needs someone whether it is friends, family or a partner."
Me: "Trust me, I have done well enough so far and I think that friends or anyone else are going to just be a hindrance."
Him: "now you are just trying to be anti - you were always like that - you never listen to my advice. I promise you, when you will need us (family), and you will in the future, you will come begging for help. But it may be too late by then."
Me: "You never learn, do you? Every time you told me I can't do something I have proved you wrong."
Him: "You will lose if you continue with this attitude."
Me: "maybe, maybe not, only time will tell…"
Now, I don't even think I just pretend to other people - I even convince myself that I don't need any friends because, "well, I'm better than them" (big-headedness at its worse), and, "the negatives will eventually outweigh the positives." I know that I'm being untruthful to myself, and I think that you have to be completely honest with yourself if you want to overcome a problem. Because…well, the only person you are cheating here is yourself.
So… do you make other people, or yourself for that matter, think that you just don't give a damn!?
Honestly? Your father is right. I thought the same thing, that I didn't need people. That lasted until I went to college away from my family and high school friends, and was truly alone for the first time in my life.Because that's what I always do, and I wonder if it's a wise attitude to adopt considering I want to overcome SA.
For example, my father started to inquire why I don't talk to anyone (including to him and all my family members). I told him that, "I don't need anyone and I'm perfectly able to cope on my own."
Him: "Everyone needs someone whether it is friends, family or a partner."
Me: "Trust me, I have done well enough so far and I think that friends or anyone else are going to just be a hindrance."
Him: "now you are just trying to be anti - you were always like that - you never listen to my advice. I promise you, when you will need us (family), and you will in the future, you will come begging for help. But it may be too late by then."
Me: "You never learn, do you? Every time you told me I can't do something I have proved you wrong."
Him: "You will lose if you continue with this attitude."
Me: "maybe, maybe not, only time will tell…"
Now, I don't even think I just pretend to other people - I even convince myself that I don't need any friends because, "well, I'm better than them" (big-headedness at its worse), and, "the negatives will eventually outweigh the positives." I know that I'm being untruthful to myself, and I think that you have to be completely honest with yourself if you want to overcome a problem. Because…well, the only person you are cheating here is yourself.
So… do you make other people, or yourself for that matter, think that you just don't give a damn!?
Yep, same here.i dont pretend i really dont need anyone. im truly a lone wolf. if every one on the planet suddenly disappeared i could easily adapt and live out the rest of my life and stay sane and probably somewhat happy at the same time.