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I'm 17, and unlike most people my age, i prefer to be alone. I have a few close friends.. about 4 who i hang out with throughout the week. I enjoy seeing them 2-3 days each week, but i can't take anymore than that.. it's not that i don't like them, they are brilliant friends, and we have alot in common.. but when i am around people.. my mum, my friend, a stranger, anyone.. i am constantly worrying that i am going to say something stupid, and i constantly think "what can i say next", or "what are they thinking of me".. and it drains me.. i'd rather be alone in my room listening to music, or watching a film, in peace, rather than out socialising. About an hour ago, one of my friends asked me if i wanted to go shopping tommorrow and i said that i didn't feel well.. which was a lie. i feel really bad, because i can't tell her the real reason. does anyone else ever feel a similar way?
 

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I feel the same way. Also, I'm getting extremely depressed from having anxiety. I'm losing my 4 close friends because they don't understand what I am going through.
 

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I like being around people at times. I just wish that i didn't worry so much. The thing that annoys me the most is that people try to be friends with me.. but i push them away because i'm too withdrawn. All i think about when i come face to face with a person is "they are thinking negative things, ahhhhhh".
 

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I actually love to be alone. I have to be with so many people when I am at work, that I feel drained when I get home. I only have one friend from high school that I keep in contact with and I don't even like to hang out with her that much, not that there's anything wrong with her. It's just that I can only take so much of people. If I have to spend my weekends with anyone, it's usually my nephew, he's pretty much my one exception. All of my other time I spend with my dog!!
 

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I'm actually quite similar, I like a 70:30 (or there abouts) split in favour of time by myself. My friends are great don't get me wrong, but I feel when ever I'm with them or any other social situation, I'm never totally at ease. I'm always evaluating things and trying my hardest to just try and fit in :b The end result is that I feel quite drained usually.

Oh, and I have used the feeling like crap excuse with friends before too, I'm not pleased to say. :blush
 

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I prefer to be alone most of the time, but sometimes I wish I had some friends so I could hang out and do things with them. Also, some things are difficult to do without having another person with you.
 

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Same here. I mean, if I can get over my anxiety enough to actually hang out with someone outside of school now and then, it's a refreshing experience. But honestly, I prefer to spend most of my "free" time alone. It's almost like social situations are tiring and I want to crawl into bed afterwards lol!
 

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That's exactly how I feel sometimes. I just prefer for some reason to be by myself. I don't enjoy situations that make me feel uncomfortable, and I tend to suck at small talk conversations with people I have just met. I have a close net of friends and we hang out a lot, but when they say something like would you like to go to a party or something. I'll be like no that's okay, and come up with some kind of excuse. I'm learning to get over that, and go out of my comfort zone, but it is really hard. I'm constantly worried about what other people are thinking because I don't want to look stupid or have one of those awkward silences. And I realized that I have repeated almost everything you have just said. lol.

But sometimes it's okay to want to be by yourself. Heck, I love to be by myself sometimes. It's just when it gets to the point where you completely don't want to leave the house or you never go out when it gets a little extreme. Some of that has to do with personality. I know that I'll always be a little shy, I'm just working on my social anxieties, because I know that it is curable.
 

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I feel that way kind of, except more extreme, I can only hang out with the friends I have like every couple of weeks, and sometimes I can't even lie so I just will ignore them until I can work up the courage to talk to them, and then I'll lie about why I didn't answer there calls or whatever because I'm afraid to tell them the truth.
 

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Sometimes I do, yet other times I'm eager to speak with anyone who will listen. Occasionally I'll become very introverted and shun any kind of contact, prefering to spend time in my own little world, but later I end up regretting it when the people I've denied contact with give up on our relationship. It's a tension of opposites that I find hard to deal with.
 

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i like a lot of "me" time for sure lol =D at least 60% of the time i like to be alone, the rest i don't like to be over-crowded fun time though either, just a few friends doing something like a movie :)
 

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Somedays i do feel like being alone and other days i don't. Its pretty much random for me. The days i feel like being alone people start to invite me to gatherings and stuff but i just can't do it the feeling is to overwhelming. Then when i actually do wanna go out no ones available and i fall back to a state of bleh.

I think you shold go out shoping with your friends tomorrow, who knows it could turn out to be a good day. You gotta try to get over SA, going out tomorrow can make you worse or better or do nothing at all, but the more you go out the more comfortable you'll get and develop your social skill. 99% of success is failure, when you were a baby and tryed to walk you fell a couple times untill you got it right , when you frist started to learn to ride a bike you also fell and learned form your mistakes. If your out with your friends and you say something stupid and every one laugh at you, don't hide in your room learn from it. Can you imagine yourself 5 years from now still hiding in your room? what really help me is not thinking to much i just think of a song.

please at least try going out tomorrow. If it gose bad don't make the experience make you weaker but stronger. If your geting anxious think of a comforting song.
 

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Absolutely. Right now I'm pretty lonely and I spend more time alone than I would like because of SA, but I'm definitely introverted as well. Even if I had zero anxiety, I would always need a certain amount of time for myself to recharge. I don't like small talk, not because I can't do it right now but because it's a waste of time, and there aren't a lot of people who I'm interested in hanging out with. This is probably why SA isn't such a huge deal for me.
 

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I used to prefer to be alone, but now I will do almost anything to socialize with someone. Like filledwithfear1 said, I want to be around people, but I guess I don't know how to act around them. The only skill I have is making people laugh.
 
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