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I kind of dread the first few minutes at work on Monday. Everyone is talking about all the different things they did on the weekend, and inevitabely I get asked the same question. I don't want to tell them what I actually did, which was nothing (lol), so I make things up.

I'm careful about what I say and who I say it to, the less I know them, the bigger the fib.

I haven't figured out what I'm going to tell them yet, but man, it'll be exciting stuff!
 

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Nah, I just tell them I didn't really do anything. I usually just read or mess around with some computer stuff on the weekends. I'll usually tell them that and then just ask if they did anything. I haven't had a single person really mention my lack of social life yet.
 

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Usually people generically say "how was your weekend?" or "what did you do this weekend?" I have no problem with that. It's just polite, friendly small talk.

I start to have problems with people when they keep pushing me. If I respond and say I did "nothing much, just relaxed," and they keep asking for specifics ("how so!? what'd you do!"), I might make a small lie. I hate when people don't mind their own business.
 

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It is not illegal to lie against pushy questions bordering harassment, like in the "How so!" case. Such would be termed self-defence because the other party probably likes gossiping about others' personal details.

It's the same story with employers who ask "do you have a boy/girlfriend" or other personal questions unrelated to professional matters, on your very first day of work. Such behaviour would be deemed unacceptable and you are not bound to give a truthful answer - but a socially profitable one.

In some aspects of socialisation one has to use discretion and perhaps, hide one's true intent to gain acceptance. Everyone has their vices, but it is considered taboo to be "completely honest" for obvious reasons - the other parties will not appreciate the confession but use it as a means to gain an upper hand on you.
 

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Oh man, Mondays were something I used to totally dread because of this. I was so scared of people judging me, that i'd sometimes make things up, but sometimes be honest. But the worst thing was that every time I did actually do something and I told certain people, they would turn it into a big deal, then gossip about it to everyone. So now I'm pretty happy with saying "had a quiet one in" or "nothing much". I say this to the gossipers even if I DID do something :D

The gossiping wankers will saying something like "what, again?" or "you need a life", but I stopped caring about what these idiots think.
 

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These days I just say someting along the lines of 'I had a relaxing weekend, and I slept a lot because I was tired' or I will sum it up with just one word 'uneventful'. I did get burned on this one a few years ago. The same guy at work asked me what I did on the weekend, like 3 or 4 Mondays in a row, and I told him the truth, which was 'nothing'. He finally said 'Hey man, do you have a life?!' And yes, he said that in front of a group of people.
 

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haha, i know exactly what you mean.
as a teenager, the majority of people usually go out drinking or some other stereotypical adolescent activity at weekends while i sit at home doing jack all.
often my excuse is art coursework. (we get alot) :b
 

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If they ask me "how was your weekend?" I usually immediately deflect it with a "it was ok, how was yours?" Then instead of a "oh, it was nice", they usually keep jacking their jaw for 10 minutes, while I ignore them.
 

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Yes, I do! Especially when my parents ask if I have anything big planned for the weekend (which is pretty much every week). I usually stay at home not doing much, but I say I'm going to parties, which is expected of me as a college student.
 

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Yes, I do! Especially when my parents ask if I have anything big planned for the weekend (which is pretty much every week). I usually stay at home not doing much, but I say I'm going to parties, which is expected of me as a college student.
Trust me, as the mom of a 17-year-old who's living away from home, I'd much rather hear "I stayed home and relaxed" than "I went to parties."
 

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My friends hardly ever give a crap about what I did on the weekends. Instead, they usually tell me all the stuff they did. Of course, they usually ditch me when I ask them I want to hang out with them. I don't really have any true friends.
 

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Whenever someone asks "what did you do in the weekend", I almost always reply with "nothing" because I really did do "nothing" ["worth mentioning"] over the weekend.
 

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I've worked at my job long enough that people don't ask anymore. Its just as well, going places, doing things, and seeing people is overrated anyways.
 
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