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Whether it's conscious or not, do you all have any secrets that you want to hide from the people you meet?
I imagine people having secrets like.. peculiar interests/hobbies, sexual orientation, disabilities, etc.
I have a secret. It pertains to sexual orientation, and it causes ALL kinds of problems. Hands down, it is probably at least 90% of the reason for my SA today.
Sexual orientation was why I was bullied in school (-self-esteem,-self-confidence). It's why I couldn't pursue any relationships growing up (-experience). It's why I can't pursue any relationships now (-self-esteem,-experience). It's why I'm uncomfortable and unable to answer most personal questions, and why I fear conversation leading to a confrontation about it (-self-esteem).
SO.. It has everything to do with the specific AND the general (low self-esteem/-confidence and lack of experience).
Do any of you have secrets that you feel are or have been major contributors to your SA?
I imagine people having secrets like.. peculiar interests/hobbies, sexual orientation, disabilities, etc.
I have a secret. It pertains to sexual orientation, and it causes ALL kinds of problems. Hands down, it is probably at least 90% of the reason for my SA today.
Sexual orientation was why I was bullied in school (-self-esteem,-self-confidence). It's why I couldn't pursue any relationships growing up (-experience). It's why I can't pursue any relationships now (-self-esteem,-experience). It's why I'm uncomfortable and unable to answer most personal questions, and why I fear conversation leading to a confrontation about it (-self-esteem).
SO.. It has everything to do with the specific AND the general (low self-esteem/-confidence and lack of experience).
Do any of you have secrets that you feel are or have been major contributors to your SA?