sometimes when i feel good about myself i can love others but other times my love is selfish and is mostly about reassurance from the other person, i'm working on it...
love is hard to define, but i think it's genuinely liking the other person and taking care of his happiness the way you would for yourself (if you loved yourself hehe).
I know I am capable of loving because I can feel it, but I fail at expressing it the right way. I think it hinders the amount of love to enter a persons life. For me personally, I need to ease into a relationship instead of diving right in. I see so many people trying to rush love, which might be ok for some people, but for me it's a pretty slow process. But yeah, I believe anyone with SA can find love. It just takes time.
You definately can love if you have SA. I've been in several close relationships in my life even though I was suffering from depression and SA etc but the key thing is how consistent you can be in the relationship and how much your partner loves you in return and will be there to support you through your down times.
That said, I have been burnt and haven't been in a relationship for about 2 years but that's mainly due to where I am in life and this feeling of low self worth which obviously doesn't bode well in terms of vibes toward the opposite sex.
As goldengray said, you definately can be in love with SA.
It's possible. I'm way more caring, loving and protective towards my fiance than I ever thought I could be about anyone. But at the same time I have to be careful to keep some of that love for myself, I have to constantly remind myself to watch out for myself, too.
how can you be taught how to love, if you're a human being then you have that capacity, if you think you can't then it is a lie placed in your mind. Be real with yourself and expose those irrational thoughts, that is the first step to recovery
I think the only way SA could keep you from loving someone is if you let it discourage you from getting to know someone else. I have had very severe SA but I've been in love with the same girl for a couple of years now. Why? Because I've gotten to know her. Although things were rough in the beginning (when I just had a crush on her), over time I've been able to open up and let her in. You can love. You can fall in love. It's just not going to be automatic.