[pita]

So what are your techniques? Can you keep yourself from getting upset?

I can keep myself from appearing upset although this is a very recent development. Before that, I was rather fed up with rudeness and I was responding with a lot of irritation and anger. I've mended my ways, but I still feel very hurt even though I don't look it.

I would definitely like to hear from anyone who can just ignore rude comments without taking them to heart. How do you do it?

 

[OneIsALonelyNumber]

I've no good answer for you I think part of having SAS is being hypersensitive to negative comments. So, I would be really surprised to find many SAS members who are able to ignore negative or rude comments.

 

[Iced Soul]

I deal with them when they come and they could have different reactions. But I always act as if it doesn't bother me when that person is around. After that, I'll do several different things.

 

[shyvr6]

Usually my sa prevents me from speaking my mind.

 

[millenniumman75]

Kill it with kindness.

I worked at McDonald's in college and got cussed at by an impatient customer.
"I would like some ******' fries!"

He apologized.

 

[Desperate]

I don't really know how to deal with rude people. I usually stay quiet.. If I do get the chance to say something they always get at me and then I end up looking like fool lol.. I'm just not good at that..

 

[WineKitty]

I do not do well in these situations and I deal with these at the job I have quite often. I look forward to the day when I no longer have this kind of stress in my life. Tonight was a stellar example on my job of how tough it can be to have a job with SA.

 

[darkangel]

Because I'm in retail, I get rude customers all the time who try to tell me that I don't know what I'm talking about and I'm stupid. They make me laugh. Because I KNOW I'm right, and I just let them say whatever they're gonna say, and then rush over to my friend and we laugh about it. They're the rude ones not me, so why worry about it?

 

[Black_Widow]

This is something I struggle alot with as well. Usually when someone is rude to me, when I know I've not done anything to provoke the rudeness, I tend to go one of two ways. I either feel extreme anger at the person or else feel hurt (sometimes even both). These feelings will tend to last a long time after the encounter in question, to the point I allow these sorts of experiences to ruin a good part of my day as I let it get to me so much. At the same time though, I know on a logical level that these types of responses aren't helpful because at the end of the day, there will realistically be times I encounter people who will choose to be rude to me whether I like it or not for their own reasons - and I know there is very little I can do about it. Because of this I really want to start changing my reactions in that type of situation too. But as with yourself, unfortunately, feel at a bit of a loss as to how to do this at the moment because even though recently I've been trying to think certain alternative thoughts such as 'it's probably not as personal as it seems' and 'if i just accept that this person has the right to behave in a different way to me if they so choose, then I wouldn't feel so much like this' it's really not helped at all so far. I still continue to feel the same levels of anger and hurt, though I really do want to change these aspects of myself. :-(

 

[PickleNose]

So what are your techniques? Can you keep yourself from getting upset?

One of my main reasons for being quiet and shy is just to observe what kind of people I'm surrounded by. I figure if there's someone who's rude, I'd rather they be rude to someone else than me and then I'll know to avoid them.

 

[Roberto]

I try to distance myself from them somehow / run away. "i'm going to go into the other room refocus and get on with my day." i'm pretty sensitive that way. i would like to get to a point where i just don't let it bother me and relax and be confident. I feel like i have lost touch with my identity and consequently take things to heart really quick.

 

[Neptunus]

Kill it with kindness..

I agree. Only if they're repeat offender do I give them their own medicine.

 

[Just Lurking]

It depends on the situation, who it is, and what their relation is to you, but overall I'd say kindness is the best route to go (though it may take some doing when the temptation is to tell them off).

 

[Shauna The Dead]

Unfortunately I can't. I get mad and sometimes say something rude back.