I've been away from the forum for awhile (I lost the link after several computer rebuilds), but I was motivated to find my way back after going on my first real date in a very long time. Only, I'm not totally sure this one was "real". A friend put us together, she lives in another county so we've been communicating by email, chat, and phone for several weeks. We exchanged pictures, and from her picture she wasn't exactly my type but I really liked her personality. She's Filipino, and has a really pretty voice. She seemed to like that I had kind of a 'baby face'. After she sent me her pics, she seemed kind of down on her appearance, saying that she's realistic about it and that she's not a knock out etc, and I told her that she was being too hard on herself, which she definitely was. Then I decided to open up about my shyness and limited dating experience - previously when she had asked me why I wasn't already taken, I told her I just hadn't found the right one (fearing that admitting to being shy would instantly kill any chance I had). She was the assertive one, and she was the one who actually asked me out. Anyway, this morning we finally went out. We went to a local historic mission just to walk around, it has a lot of interesting historic stuff to look at so I thought it'd be a good place. A couple times she asked me if she didn't scare me (in reference to how she felt of her appearance). Then while we're there, she decides she wants to go get coffee...oh no, that means going into the noisy, crowded dinning area. I felt completely awkward and way too self-aware in there. She asked me if I had ever dated before, and then I remembered that I had told her all about my having anxiety and limited dating experience. But it made me feel even more uncomfortable. But finally we were out of the dinning area, and later on we were sitting together in a chapel looking at the architecture and the intricate stainned glass windows, and the closeness sure seemed really nice. When we were talking to one of the mission employee's about the weddings they have there, she joked that maybe she should bring me back there. But when we parted, she only held out her hand - we didn't hug, which I think is the usual norm after a date? But she did refer to us getting together again, and asked me to call her. During the course of our communications she frequently called me, and wanted to communicate daily. Yet, she remarked that I should be going out on Friday nights, and said that I should ask someone out, like she asked me out. She has a masters in psychology. So, I wonder if she was really interested in me, or was it just charity because I'm "shy"? She herself was never married, she said because she's been having too much fun being single (she goes to a lot of parties several nights each week, especially Fri nights). So, do you guys think I can think of this as a real date? After I got home I sent her a message telling her that I had a nice time and looked forward to doing it again.