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I seem to have problems cutting out negative people. Mostly because some negative people seem to be attached friend or family-wise to people I like. For example, if you have a friend you like, well he or she will have a friend they come with as a set.
Anyway, when you lack self-esteem and you have to hang out with somebody who belittles you and laughs at your goals and aspirations, it is very discouraging to keep going.
Say you want to be a fireman, and somebody laughs at you and tells you that you don't have what it takes, you're not strong enough, and they act like they're so much more qualified, more life experience, etc.
So you think you can do something until you run into this person and then they rain on your goals.
Then they say something and you sit down and go, "Oh wow...I don't think that I can do this any more..." and you second-guess yourself.
But I've recently decided I need to do what I can to cut these people out.
Any tips? Has anybody successfully done this? Told them off cold? I've thought about just being an absolute jerk back to them, that seems to make them back off...pre-emtive.
What do you think? Ways to cut them out? Ways to ignore them? Ways to make them see eye-level with you?
Anyway, when you lack self-esteem and you have to hang out with somebody who belittles you and laughs at your goals and aspirations, it is very discouraging to keep going.
Say you want to be a fireman, and somebody laughs at you and tells you that you don't have what it takes, you're not strong enough, and they act like they're so much more qualified, more life experience, etc.
So you think you can do something until you run into this person and then they rain on your goals.
Then they say something and you sit down and go, "Oh wow...I don't think that I can do this any more..." and you second-guess yourself.
But I've recently decided I need to do what I can to cut these people out.
Any tips? Has anybody successfully done this? Told them off cold? I've thought about just being an absolute jerk back to them, that seems to make them back off...pre-emtive.
What do you think? Ways to cut them out? Ways to ignore them? Ways to make them see eye-level with you?