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For fun, I like to draw, and over time I used to post my drawings on DeviantArt. But it's been awhile since I posted anything. Why?

Because as my art starts to improve, I begin to get constructive criticism and some rude remarks. To be honest, I'm not saying that constructive criticism is rude. I know it's a way for me to improve, because I'm not all perfect. When someone gives me criticism, I tell them "Thanks for the suggestion/critique", but behind the screen, I just feel that intense hurt inside of me and I almost cried. It's just terrible. I try to tell myself that they are just helping me improve, but it's just not working. :(

One time I posted something and a guy thinks that I am posting porn. I was like, "WHAT!? It's not porn!" and I cried for half an hour, because I know I would not post that inappropriate stuff.

Not just that, I know this may sound stupid, but everytime I try to post something, the severe anxiety starts to kick in and my hands would start to get shaky and sweaty. It's like people are going to judge my work and make nit picky comments about it. The thought of it just makes me feel ill. Seriously. :(

I'm sorry that this is too long to read, but a part of me wants to post some art again, but another part wants to keep my drawings private away from the world. Once again, I'm not trying to reject constructive criticism, but it's just the nit picking that gets to me. Ugh.

Here's a link to my deviantart:

http://sugarpixie20015.deviantart.com/
 

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For fun, I like to draw, and over time I used to post my drawings on DeviantArt. But it's been awhile since I posted anything. Why?

Because as my art starts to improve, I begin to get constructive criticism and some rude remarks. To be honest, I'm not saying that constructive criticism is rude. I know it's a way for me to improve, because I'm not all perfect. When someone gives me criticism, I tell them "Thanks for the suggestion/critique", but behind the screen, I just feel that intense hurt inside of me and I almost cried. It's just terrible. I try to tell myself that they are just helping me improve, but it's just not working. :(

One time I posted something and a guy thinks that I am posting porn. I was like, "WHAT!? It's not porn!" and I cried for half an hour, because I know I would not post that inappropriate stuff.

Not just that, I know this may sound stupid, but everytime I try to post something, the severe anxiety starts to kick in and my hands would start to get shaky and sweaty. It's like people are going to judge my work and make nit picky comments about it. The thought of it just makes me feel ill. Seriously. :(

I'm sorry that this is too long to read, but a part of me wants to post some art again, but another part wants to keep my drawings private away from the world. Once again, I'm not trying to reject constructive criticism, but it's just the nit picking that gets to me. Ugh.

Here's a link to my deviantart:

http://sugarpixie20015.deviantart.com/
I totally understand that. It's that exact feeling that prevents me from uploading all my stories and videos online. I'm sorry that I can't offer a solution to it as I go through the same thing, but you're definitely not alone with it.
 

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Dont let the judgmental people get you down! Your uploading your work for people to enjoy not to get it judged or graded. If people are nonconstructive and judgmental you should just roll your eyes and move on, its not their place to judge anyway! You have talent and from the majority of the comments you have received people love your work. Keep sharing your talent and soaking up the good words, take the constructive criticism if you deem it necessary to make you better, and label the nit picking and judging as ignorant and not worth your time :)!
 

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I have many similar fears with my writing. I'm actually not looking for criticism because I prefer to improve on my own, and am mostly comfortable with my writing style...so I tend to take it really personally when people tell me how I SHOULD write, which really means how THEY feel I should write. Art and writing and such are really subjective and I realize there are aspects of my work that more "serious" writers who are trying to get published won't like, and would advise me not to do, but to be honest I just want to entertain people, not get published or create literature. I have to put disclaimers on all my work that I'm not looking for critique.

I'm open to comments on characterization and plot and such...I find that if somebody says something I don't immediately agree with, even if it's tactful, I often have to have a good cry over it first :sigh before I can mentally process it and see that it might actually be decent advice.

I had a bad experience with a so-called "critic" trolling/harassing me over my work online years ago (he took to posting outright insults under pseudonyms, kept coming back after I blocked him, and claimed he was helping me by not letting me subject the world to the crap I wrote)...it took YEARS before I saw that he made a few good points before he resorted to outright trollery, but the sarcastic tone he used made me miss the point. I'm still smarting from that, and from lousy experiences on writing forums, where they look down their noses at you if you use exclamation marks or italics (or a hundred other legitimate writing devices!). I learned writers are a snobby sort in general, who seem to think that if you want to be honest in critique, you can't be tactful too. :? (Which sucked to learn this, I don't even fit in among my own kind!)

Anyway...yes...I know all about the dread of criticism, however constructive it might be. :eek:ops

You've got some really great shading and coloring in your work! "Serene Forest" is lovely. :D
 

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Here's an update: I closed my account because I feel like it will be a long time before I post something again. And when I do post something, I'll have a new username.

But, thanks for your support! :D

Maybe I could start over by posting my art on here in the albums. :group
 

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As an art student, I definitely know how you feel. Generally I've always been pretty good with criticism and comments but there was one moment where someone said something I felt was kind of rude... so just because someone says something doesn't always mean it's true.

People don't always understand the work or effort you put into something, or how much stress you go through sometimes. Honestly, art is pretty subjective on its own. There will be people who like it, people who hate it, people who do and don't understand it lol.

Also it's the Internet. Sometimes people are a lot more insensitive and say things they usually wouldn't online.

I'd love to see some of your art though! :)
 

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As an art student, I definitely know how you feel. Generally I've always been pretty good with criticism and comments but there was one moment where someone said something I felt was kind of rude... so just because someone says something doesn't always mean it's true.

People don't always understand the work or effort you put into something, or how much stress you go through sometimes. Honestly, art is pretty subjective on its own. There will be people who like it, people who hate it, people who do and don't understand it lol.

Also it's the Internet. Sometimes people are a lot more insensitive and say things they usually wouldn't online.

I'd love to see some of your art though! :)
It's up on my albums now, you can go check them out if you like.
 

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SA'ers who have been bullied have a difficult time with confrontation and criticism, so why not use their comments as exposure therapy to practice detachment? There are far bigger things awaiting you in adulthood IRL; eg. confrontations with a boss, criticism from a spouse, demands from a landlord, etc. Avoidance is like fertilizer for anxiety.
 

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As an art student, I definitely know how you feel. Generally I've always been pretty good with criticism and comments but there was one moment where someone said something I felt was kind of rude... so just because someone says something doesn't always mean it's true.

People don't always understand the work or effort you put into something, or how much stress you go through sometimes. Honestly, art is pretty subjective on its own. There will be people who like it, people who hate it, people who do and don't understand it lol.

Also it's the Internet. Sometimes people are a lot more insensitive and say things they usually wouldn't online.

I'd love to see some of your art though! :)
I second this. I'm an art student as well. :D
 
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