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Hey everyone :)

just signed up to the forum and this is my first thread. I found out about social phobia/ SAD around 3 months ago. I'm fairly certain i have it but i'm too scared to ask for help ( told my mum but she said it was probably low self esteem). I'm 16 and parties and socialising is a big part of my life right now and each weekend i come up with a new excuse to my friends so i don't have to go out because i'm scared i'll bump into other people who i don't know very well and make a bad impression. When i am in a group where there's people i'm not familiar with i go completely silent and just stare at the ground.

Sorry went off topic from the title but here it is now. I've always had this problem of smiling since i was a child and its becoming worse now. You see no matter when people are talking to me or in social situations i get this uncontrollable smile. I know some people say its a good thing i'm always smiling but trust me its not. Imagine having a huge grin in a very serious situation or when someone's upset, it isn't nice and makes me feel like hell. Even at school when a teacher asks me a question i start smiling and i don't want too look all smug or cheeky but on the inside i'm feeling like crap. Whenever someone is talking about their problems i get the massive smile and they're probably thinking "wtf are you doing!? why the heck are you smiling for?!". The thing is i'm not laughing at them or making fun of them. Another thing is blushing. There might be a situation where it would be really bad to blush e.g. where i would make you appear jealous or embarressed but as i'm thinking this i can feel a tiny bit of blushing on my face so i try and control it. Guess what though? in 20 seconds my face is a tomatoe and i can actually feel the blood pumping in my face around my cheeks. I get distressed and hang my head in shame which makes it appear i was embarressed or jealous etc. :(

Well that's basically my problem and i want to know if it's linked with SAD because i researched it and seen a few times that people with SAD have this exact problem. I think it's a nervous reaction.

So let me know if this happens o you and does it ever go away over time?
 

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all i know is it happens to me all the time. blushing is usually a sign of some sort of SA issue. some people can do it all the time without SA too though. like you, i never been diagnosed too
 

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Oh gosh, yes - the smiling is terrible. This big grin always stretches across my face when I'm in an uncomfortable situation which makes me look like a total jerk. I just can't help it!

My mom was in a lot of pain one time and while she's moaning in agony, I'm standing there with my hand over my mouth trying to hide my smile. It wasn't funny at all, but I couldn't stop grinning because I was uncomfortable.
 

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typically I only smile at a joke, even if its not funny. However, I blush when very nervous, especially next to a girl thats "out of my league".

but please take a tip from the experienced, you should go out with them because you don't want to loose your friends.
 

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I just experienced this blushing problem again last night. I thought it was gone but every time I'm put into a social situation where I have to be the center of attention I instantly feel my face heat up and I get beet red. My friends laugh and are like "Wow look how red shes getting". One of my friends breaks out in hives when nervous, I just blush uncontrollably. I don't know what causes it. I was in a room last night at work with my supervisor and one of my best friends who happens to be my co-worker. We were having a conversation and when it was time for me to talk, I was telling a story about something that had happened recently and I felt my face getting really hot and I was so red. I wasn't uncomfortable or anything but still I couldn't help but blush. It's so embarrassing.
 

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I have the same problem, I can't stop myself from smiling what guys start flirting me(and any other time I'm talking to anyone), I'm disgusted with myself by it, now because of it everyone thinks that i like my ex-boyfriend. but I don't feel nervous that I know of when it happens.
 

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same problem of constant and excessive smiling!
that's the reason why i am an outcast, loser, loner, object of jokes, the weird one at school. :(((( by the way i am already college but im still stuck with the same old problem :(
we have a wacky class picture, they say there's nothing new in me there coz my wide smile is fixed
 
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