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Hello everyone. I need some advice.
I'm a late bloomer and I am very inexperienced. It's not that I'm ugly (I think...) or anything, it's just that, to make a long story short, I barely have any experience with women which makes me insecure around them.

Anyway, I met a girl who is my age (30). She's pretty and nice to be around with. At first, we just saw each other to do casual stuff like having a drink, going to the theaters, go to a restaurant together, etc.
I started feeling more for her after a few dates and just told her how I felt: I told her I started to get more feelings for her.
She said she didn't feel that way. At least not yet. She told me she had the feeling we were too different to each other and wasn't sure of it yet herself. She did say she was picky about what man would become her boyfriend but she didn't really completely rejected me neither. It's hard to describe but it left me with a feeling of "she said no, but she didn't totally close the door neither"

Anyway, we continued seeing each other. Just last week, I asked if she would like to spend an afternoon wandering in another city. You know, just some local city-sighting. She said ye and we planned it on last Saturday, but since the weather was really terrible last week she asked if it was ok we would simply go drink a hot chocolate milk together in our hometown.
We did that and it was fun. We spoke and laughed and chatted.

We started talking about the movie Skyfall which she wanted to see. We planned to see it in the theaters one night, but it was already fully booked so we ended up watching another movie.
She said last weekend that she still wanted to see Skyfall.

So a few days ago, I sent her a message asking her if she'd like to come and see Skyfall over at my place since I was planning to acquire it as soon as it would be released on Bluray.
She replied "of course! I still haven't seen it! it's a good idea". I told her I'd let her know as soon as I got the movie but that we'd probably see each other before that anyway. We're still planning to go do some local city-sighting.

Now I'm confused. I'm terrible at interpreting signals from women. A few months ago she kinda said "no" when I told her about my feelings, but didn't really completely shut the door.
And now this... all my friends say she's probably into me and simply wants to get to know me better before eventually starting a relationship. And they say that if she said "no" last time, it's probably because she felt it was too early and we didn't know each other well enough yet.

You, from an objective point of view, how would you interpret this? Is this totally innocent and nothing's going on, or do you think she might actually be into me or at least try to find out who I really am to see if a relationship is possible?
 

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my friends say she's probably into me and simply wants to get to know me better before eventually starting a relationship. And they say that if she said "no" last time, it's probably because she felt it was too early and we didn't know each other well enough yet.

^ I say this, but don't rush it on her. I think if she is beginning to get those kind of feeling for you, you will begin to know. Its nice to see that some people actually are still taking their time at things..Good luck
 

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Looks like you are getting pulled into the black hole known as "the friend zone".
 

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Maybe just give it some more time, there is no rule book for interpreting women, or for men for that matter. In my opinion, I think she might be into you, but there is that chance that she may just want to be friends. I'd say, give it some more time, and let things progress on their own.
 

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my friends say she's probably into me and simply wants to get to know me better before eventually starting a relationship. And they say that if she said "no" last time, it's probably because she felt it was too early and we didn't know each other well enough yet.

^ I say this, but don't rush it on her. I think if she is beginning to get those kind of feeling for you, you will begin to know. Its nice to see that some people actually are still taking their time at things..Good luck
Yes but that is exactly also the problem.
When I told her about my feelings after a couple of dates, she said she did feel kinda attracted to me in the beginning when we first met (after all, she's the one that initiated the first contact) and wanted to get to know me better but that after a couple of dates she realized we were quite different and that this put her off a bit.

A couple of weeks ago when we were out together, we were talking about Online Dating and she said she didn't like that because it always tried to rush things. It felt kinda "forced". She said she thinks a relationship can only start if you really know each other for a longer time and if it simply evolves into that by itself.

So yes, maybe when I told her after a few dates, it was too early for her and she really wants to get to know me better before it can evolve into a relationship. I mean... telling her after a few dates can be seen as "rushing things".

But on the other hand, if she really just plans to keep me as a friend and nothing more (AKA the friendzone) then I say **** this. Because I don't want to be friendzoned again.
How can I know what she has in mind? If she really plans to be just friends and if she isn't open in letting it evolve eventually, then I prefer to say "stop" right now.

Most people tell me "not to rush or push things with this girl" and I can understand that, but I also don't want to "be friends" for ages and getting stuck in tat horrible, dreadful black hole known as the friendzone. I simply wish I could know what she has in mind.
 
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