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Give up masturbation until you have sex. Seem impossible? The more committed you are to doing it, the more motivation you will have to "do it".

I know this idea probably won't get good reviews by most of you, but it would be interesting to see how the social anxiety gets challenged the longer you go. without masturbating for a long time you will get a little "on edge". I would like to see how that drive combats social anxiety, although you would have to be truly committed and have tremendous will power to carry it out.

Negative: if you succeed you will probably last for 10 seconds :blank
 

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I think that's a great idea. It would make guys a little more determined to at least talk to more women in a social setting.

I agree with that negative though....lol. XD
 

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Not gonna happen dude. Plus masturbating every other couple of days is good for your prostate, so it's not harming anyone. I guess If you beat the meat 10x a day then it's a problem. I think cutting down is a good idea though, but stopping completely, no way. The way I'm going it'll be years before that happens.
 

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I would just like to say that I actually tried this a few months ago when before I graduated from high-school. I made it 10 hours before failing.

MORE NEGATIVES:

-IF you end up succeeding, it will be meaningless sex with a complete stranger.

-The idea of be more on "edge" is correct, but it will probably make you feel and look needy, which you are and which was my experience.
 

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Considering that it was the way we were made, it would work!

Otherwise, it is lack of self-control.

Guys who are single tend to have more testosterone for this very reason....to find a mate.
 

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Well, if you don't release yourself every few days, your body does it for you in your sleep, so you might as well enjoy it, lol. Plus the negative will definitely cause some problems.
 

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"Until you have sex"..That could be a lifetime. I don't have a social life. I live with my parents and I don't have a job. How am I suppose to convince a woman to have sex with that?...of course I could lie and say I have a job and place to live hmmm...but where do you meet woman if your not in school or working? Do you walk up to a woman randomly?
 

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Well, if you don't release yourself every few days, your body does it for you in your sleep, so you might as well enjoy it, lol. Plus the negative will definitely cause some problems.
What's this now???
It takes a little more than a few days, but hes right. If you do not masturbate or have sex for a long period of time, then it will come out anyways when you sleep.
 

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Wow, seems like a badass idea actually...

I'll uh, try I guess, lol, I seem like the prime candidate for this experiment!
 

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Reason to stop masturbating is when you do happen to land the girl you like and when it comes down to sex, you'll be primed and ready to go rather than being flaccid cause only certain types of porn activity gets you excited.
 

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I've gone long periods of not doing the deed and I felt wayyyy better. After a few months, you don't know even think about it. You still get boners and have the urge sometimes, but I guess it comes down to self-control. In fact I am on week 3 on not doing it and I feel good. Usually when I would do it, it would make me feel guilty afterwards. I don't plan on having sex until I get married which will probably never happen. And yeah its possible to have 'wet dreams', its happen to me during periods on not doing it, but I guess its okay since you don't really have control over that since your asleep.
 

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Are you guys old fashion rainmakers?

Rainmakers would tell farmers they could make it rain if you paid them enough money, if it happened to rain they would claim victory. If it didn't rain they would tell the farmers it is because the farmers did not pay enough money.


"don't masturbate until you have sex. The longer you go the more determined you will be."

On a long enough time line only two things will happen, either one day have sex or he will die without having sex.

If said "Male virgins" do not have eat cheese until you have sex, one of two things will happen, either one day he will have sex, or he will die without having sex.

The same with, using the computer, watching sports, driving a car, smoking, drinking, voting, and farting, and more (well everything).

This theory has very little validity to it as it does not give any kind of stop date, ie a time when you say "okay this isn't working, let's examine what else might be the problem." But rather says "Oh if it's not working it means you haven't done it long enough."

I think there are way to many other factors in why SA men are virgins longer than the rest of society to just jump to jacking it.

Masturbation reduces stress, until all other factors have been ruled out I would be wary of any advice that suggest getting rid of a stress release.
 

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Are you guys old fashion rainmakers?

Rainmakers would tell farmers they could make it rain if you paid them enough money, if it happened to rain they would claim victory. If it didn't rain they would tell the farmers it is because the farmers did not pay enough money.

"don't masturbate until you have sex. The longer you go the more determined you will be."

On a long enough time line only two things will happen, either one day have sex or he will die without having sex.

If said "Male virgins" do not have eat cheese until you have sex, one of two things will happen, either one day he will have sex, or he will die without having sex.

The same with, using the computer, watching sports, driving a car, smoking, drinking, voting, and farting, and more (well everything).

This theory has very little validity to it as it does not give any kind of stop date, ie a time when you say "okay this isn't working, let's examine what else might be the problem." But rather says "Oh if it's not working it means you haven't done it long enough."

I think there are way to many other factors in why SA men are virgins longer than the rest of society to just jump to jacking it.

Masturbation reduces stress, until all other factors have been ruled out I would be wary of any advice that suggest getting rid of a stress release.
no... You added way more stuff which just isn't true.

1. your argument doesn't work because what does "cheese" have to do with having sex? nothing. Masturbation is directly related to sex, so stopping would increase your urge to have sex, and if you have a lot of willpower you will give it a good shot and not masturbate for a while, and thus "find a way" based on your natural instincts... which is what I am proposing may combat SAD.

2. who needs a stop date? Set your own stop date if you want... obviously if it takes over a year you need to re-evaluate. When I posted this I was hoping that it would be able to work for me in few months.

3. I'm not saying masturbation is "the problem" (cause) of SAD! Come on that's pretty obvious. I'm proposing that it may help, however. At least for the no-sex symptom.

4. Most importantly, (ask Zeeshan about this), masturbating, and engaging in any types of pleasure/addiction stimulate the D2 dopamine receptors, causing less dopamine to be available in your brain. Essentially by masturbating you are robbing your dopamine from times where it could be used in social situations. So your "getting rid of a stress release" theory is not correct. (not worded as scientifically as I would have liked, but I'm tired)
 

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Sorry.
Couldn't resist. :b

But on topic, though I'm not a virgin I think I'll give this a try.
It will also give me an opportunity to test what was written in that other fap thread.
 

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I tried this before and went about a month before caving in. I do think my confidence goes up if I don't do it for a couple of days. I think instead of cutting myself off completely I'll just do it like once a week and see what happens.
 

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I think if you gave up masturbating, after a few weeks your libido would plummet if not disappear altogether. I gave up masturbating for Lent once (bizarre, I know - and I certainly didn't tell the vicar). All that happened was I completely lost any interest in sex.
 
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